these elders who abuse their rights of being elder

There are tons of twats in this world. They are wrong. Categorically wrong. If they see the world in an unfair manner, it is their problem. My suggestion is to not engage with them.

Next time someone starts talking disrespectfully to you, I suggest, you simply shake your head and leave the place without arguing with them. It is pointless to make such people they are being unfair or wrong. They aren't about to get their heads out of the la-la land to listen. They are spoiling for a fight; you were an easy target.

In situations like these the following quote by G B Shaw reminds me to stop justifying myself - "I learned long ago, never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it."

Put it out of your head and live your life. Chin up!

 

Next time just say..."You have your own children...why don't you mind them ....they need it more."...then walk away.Such elders don't deserve your time or respect.

 

I knew an uncle (family friend), who had a son who is practically jobless. He never applied to jobs coz he thought he might have prospective brides running behind him after looking at his CV. His dad always used to say."we will go away to US...he can't work in places like this"....and they are still like that. We are two sisters. He always used to tell my dad...you should have atleast one son...who can run out instantly for some errand..which gals cannot do..you should have had a son. Now...when I last saw him..his son was still feeling prospective brides are still behind him..so he is still a bachelor...almost bald!! I wanted to go tell him...how is your errand boy doing??
My dad stopped me from doing so though.......

There are ppl like that....so whenever you see one...jst say .."thank god I am normal"...and if possible loudly so that they can hear you!

 

Had a similar situation at home recently. We had been to our friend's place for dinner over the weekend and they have 2 daughters. Older one is 2 years older than DS and younger one is 6 months younger. Older one has been given the chore of clearing table, wiping the table, kitchen counter etc. Younger one has a few chores, but simple ones.

When we came back home, my DS decided that he would start setting the table daily, and help clear up. FIL immediately jumped to help. I said "appa, let him learn - will help him when he is older. See those 2 girls they are also doing and that is why he wants to help now" FIL's response was "They are girls, they will learn to do such things. Boys should enjoy life" I looked at him and in a very calm voice told him "Let him learn, otherwise tomorrow his wife will curse me for not teaching him anything"

It was like a double whammy for them. First that I was making DS do chores. Second - indirectly telling them that they should have taught their son some things (but have to give credit to DH - he is good at all kinds of household chores now - necessity made him learn)

 

Whenever i hear/see such trashy people speaking-i visualize them as a heap of garbage infront of me & think of it being tossed around & around-That's it-trash should be treated as trash nothing less/more.Dont react-ACT!

 

Hey Op

This relative of urs is living in the 70's !! Give a fig !! Dont care about her crappy comments !! Very soon her son will grow upto ignore her and do whatever he wants !! We need to learn to ridicule people like this !! They Do not add value to the society but first in the line to drag the society back a 20 years !! They never had the freedom to do anything therefore do not want you to achieve anything, thus try and bring you down !! She knew she cant bring u down in ur field of study, academics and otherwise, thus decided to go with personal attacks !!

ps: If I were at ur place, I would have taken a personal dig at her !! (How come aunty so much wrinkles and dark circles,looking a little plump etc etc):bang

 

Better you guys write a book guessho & yellowmango You rock gals!