The 'you Look Tired' Comment - Is It Rude, How To Respond

I am one of those people who asks that question and from my end though it is a genuine concern.

You look tired ra...all fine? is what I usually ask when i come across my friends/ acquaintances who really look tired. I don't go beyond that to presume anything. Half the time the response is lack of sleep or too much work. The rest half was surprisingly a theraphy session where they unburderned their problem. my two good friends moved from the acquaintance circle to the inner reserved good friends after such sessions. I guess they probably wanted someone anyone there to unburden themselves. I am glad i was there to support them.

 

I have not yet read the other responses, however felt the need to reply. I feel, it depends on how close the relationship is. If it is a dear friend or immediate family, i would take it as a show of concern. I have often passed this remark to my sons/DILs and other close relatives too, and no one has taken it badly and said what they felt! Of course , with plain acquaintances, it could be construed to be rude or rather interfering!

 

few days back my friend told me this...that I look very tired

I was least bit bothered and also know it is true

long time ago..

I once felt fantastic, fresh, felt I looked good but was told my someone at a party that " why do u look crestfallen!"/..she repeated it three times in the party and by the end of the party I did look crestfallen.coz I was angry with her comment which was obviously not true.

That I felt was rude.

So it is how we see ourself that day.

 

Dear Rihana,

The one time I have a moment to log in, I see this post. I have been told many a time that I look tired. I have always responded with a "I am tired" - usually don't worry about the person commenting because I know how my days are and am grateful to feel that tired as I plough my way through days doing what I feel is important or satisfying to me.

 

Aww..thanks Rihana! Your compliments always means a lot.It feels very rewarding when am
able to help anyone emotionally or see a different perspective and it makes them feel good.Whatever Little I know from my life experiences am able to share my bit here in the IL world.Thanks again