I still remember those days of childhood were my dad did everything for me, right from feeding me , polishing my shoes, ironing my uniform, dropping and picking from school, dropping to tuition's, arranging my books... He involved in every tiny work of mine. When i started my college, though my college was hardly 10 mins walk able distance from home my dad dropped and picked me every single day. I had almost been so dependent on him that even to buy a small stationary item i used to wait for him to take me to the nearby stationary shop. This continued with my graduation as well. My parents thought that doing everything for me was like their duty . Till graduation i enjoyed all the dependency , the real struggle started when i started to work . I had to move to a different city where i hardly knew someone. I had to depend on public transport to commute to office. I could not rely on anyone to help me with the basic things. Initial days, i felt it very difficult and quite odd. But slowly i started living in reality. I was starting to be less dependent and work out things for myself. But i did not totally come out of being dependent. I still let my dad book my train tickets... Stack the clothes over a week and bring home to get my clothes washed by mom. Mom even packed my snacks for every week. she even gave me all the toiletries that was needed so that i don trouble myself going to the shop to buy them. After i got married , My husband expected me to be independent. Independent as in he at least hated spoon feeding me with basic things. I used to get annoyed initially and complain . Slowly i realized how dependent i have been all through my life . I had to change how i let others take care of me and started not depending on someone for the simplest tasks. It was not at all a big task to change after i realized how important it was to be independent. Its been few years of my marriage ,Now i feel much confident about myself, and that i can handle things even in the worst situations. I feel like i have grown leaps and bounds now. This is my transformation from being DEPENDENT to INDEPENDENT!! I feel its very much necessary in training the kids to be self dependent so that they can face life better!!