The stuff that is more important than heart beats and breathes :)

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The title of this blog may sound weird but it seems to be true that there is some stuff that has gained a 'permanent visa' in our mind and we often tend to give the first priority to that stuff.

That stuff is nothing but our emotions. The Bhagwad Geeta states about 'Sthitpragna' state of mind and about the ability of handling the emotions but here, I would like to first share my limited views on how the emotions handle us.

First of all, we all like to 'be good'. We all like to set a 'positive image' among the people in our surrounding. Thenafter, we may take the aid of our limited understanding and awareness to apply all our time and sources in practising 'being good'. We want to 'be good' in the eyes of others so if none is watching, we may allow ourselves to be nasty to the extent our conscience permits us.

We often acknowledge all our efforts and want those efforts to be acknowledged by others. We want to make sure that we get respect and love for what ever we have contributed for the other people and want to establish our impression for possessing 'the goodness'.

We seek approval of our feelings. For an example, "I love you and I did these many things for you". In the end of the day, if I am not able to hear anything positive about me or my efforts, I would automatically get the license to demoralize you personally and/or publicly. I would continue loving and demoralizing you at the same time!! In short, if my feelings are not approved, I may change the definition of "my love". I will do this for it is a part of my culture to accomplish all duties that would give me a label of "a good person playing his/her role the best. I SEEK APPROVAL OF MY EFFORTS AND FEELINGS!":rant

उदकान् हि नयन्ति नेत्तिका
उसुकार नमयन्ति तेजनम्।
दारुं नमयन्ति तच्चका
अत्तानं दमयन्ति पण्डिता॥
English Translation of Sanskrit Quote:
Irrigators direct the water,Fletchers fashion the shaft, Carpenters bend the wood,
The wise control themselves (http://sanskrit-quote.blogspot.com.au/) .

Emotions may be healthy enough if they bring productive result for ourselves. By positive result, I mean, the peace and satisfaction within. But in most cases, we fail to experience this bliss when we live with unhelpful emotions.

Loving is certainly the great experience. It brings the great joy. When it is done unconditionally and ethically, we do not need to seek approval from others for our feelings or our efforts. We gain satisfaction, merely by our own acknowledgement. Rori Raye, a relationship coach, had once written on some public website that draw your own picture on a paper, draw each part of your body, do this lovingly, admire the gorgeous you on the paper, enjoy drawing yourself and love this person who has been always with you. This is one of the art of SELF-ACCEPTANCE.

Realize the increase in your self-esteem through any of the exercise of SELF-ACCEPTANCE and know that your acknowledgement is enough for your efforts and for your feelings. We are the human made of flesh, bones, heart beats, breathes and emotions. It is important to value and regulate our precious emotions in the right direction. The direction that is helpful.

(Attached is the photo of my daughter feeding the seagulls with the food and her unconditional love. Her love does not seek any approval and so she continues gaining satisfaction from what she loves. Further, she continues her practice regardless of any weather challenge )

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Dear Sir,

It is the blessing that my blog was able to make you happy!

Thanks for sharing the facts about unconditional love and our character.

You have observed so well about each of our body parts and its generous functioning. Some of them, like heart, do not take rest and work incessantly for long time!

Thank you Sir for the compliments for my daughter. She really enjoys feeding the birds.

Best regards,
Anuradha

 

Dear Pallavi,

Thank you for your words. I am so happy that you liked the blog. Hehe..Yes, my daughter enjoys and plays her part of unconditional love accurately.

Love,
Anuradha

 

Thank you honeybee, Malti, Viswa Sir, Pallavi, Bhavna and Shyamla for liking the blog

 

Dear Shyamala,

Thank you for your precious feedback. I can see you express your heart openly. It is always helpful to get the indepth feedback. I have often found the other way of perceiving the same issue through your blog comment. I appreciate your insight too.

I agree with you. The coin has always two sides and we often face the mixture of reactions.

Thank you for the compliments and your blessings to my daughter.

Love,
Anuradha

 

Dear Bhavna,

Thank you for sharing the words of wisdom. I would always like to remember the above quote. It makes sense, especially when we know about the benefits of something, we still could not continue the practice just for the reason that we feel uncomfortable with the new change. I often think about the principled people who keep themselves adhered with their principles and values. It is not easy at all without being "sthitpragna". On the cover page of the Bhagwad Geeta that is with me, there is a quote of Mahatma Gandhi that states that "Whenever I have any trouble or confusion, I open the Bhagwad Geeta, and I always get the solution for my question or the situation".

Unfortunately, the Geeta that is with me is bit hard to understand and I desperately look forward to get the one that you've suggested.

Thank you for your precious comment.
Love,
Anuradha