The secret to a lasting marriage

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  1. iyerviji

    iyerviji IL Hall of Fame

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    My daughter had mailed me this forwarded message so I thought let me share with u all

    I know all probably know all this already...but it's nice to get a
    refresher
    sometimes.



    The Secret to a Lasting Marriage: Embrace Imperfection

    When I was a little girl, my mom liked to make breakfast
    food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in
    particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work.

    On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage,
    and extremely burned toast in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see
    if anyone noticed! Yet, all my dad did was reached for his toast, smiled
    at my mom, and asked me how my day was at school.
    I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember
    watching him smear butter and jelly on that toast and eat every bite!
    When
    I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom
    apologize
    to my dad for burning the toast. And I'll never forget what he said:


    "Baby, I love burned toast."

    Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if
    he really liked his toast burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said,
    "Debbie, your mommy put in a hard day at work today and she's real
    tired. And besides, a little burnt toast never hurt anyone!"

    In bed that night, I thought about that scene at dinner...and the
    kindness my daddy showed my mom. To this day, it's a cherished memory
    from
    my childhood that I'll never forget. And it's one that came to mind just
    recently when Jack and I sat down to eat dinner.

    I had arrived home late...as usual...and decided we would have
    breakfast food for dinner. Some things never change, I suppose!

    To my amazement, I found the ingredients I needed, and quickly began
    to cook eggs, turkey sausage, and buttered toast. Thinking I had things
    under control, I glanced through the mail for the day. It was only a
    few minutes later that I remembered that I had forgotten to take the
    toast
    out of the oven!
    Now, had it been any other day -- and had we had more than two pieces
    of bread in the entire house -- I would have started all over. But it
    had
    been one of those days and I had just used up the last two pieces of
    bread. So burnt toast it was!

    As I set the plate down in front of Jack, I waited for a comment about
    the toast. But all I got was a "Thank you!" I watched as he ate bite
    by bite, all the time waiting for some comment about the toast. But
    instead, all Jack said was, "Babe, this is great. Thanks for cooking
    tonight. I know you had a hard day."

    As I took a bite of my charred toast that night, I thought about my
    mom and dad...how burnt toast hadn't been a deal-breaker for them. And I
    quietly thanked God for giving me a marriage where burnt toast wasn't
    a deal-breaker either!

    You know, life is full of imperfect things...and imperfect people. I'm
    not the best housekeeper or cook. And you might be surprised to find
    out that Jack isn't the perfect husband! He likes to play his music too
    loud, he will always find a way to avoid yard work, and he watches far
    too many sports. Believe it or not, watching " Golf Academy " is not my
    idea of a great night at hom
    But somehow in the past 37 years Jack and I have learned to accept the
    imperfections in each other. Over time, we have stopped trying to make
    each
    other in our own mould and have learned to celebrate our
    differences. You might say that we've learned to love each other for
    who we really are!

    For example, I like to take my time, I'm a perfectionist, and I'm
    even-tempered. I tend to work too much and sleep too little. Jack, on
    the other hand, is disciplined, studious, an early riser, and is a
    marketer's dream consumer. I count pennies and Jack could care less!
    Where he is strong, I am weak, and vice versa.

    And while you might say that Jack and I are opposites, we're also very
    much alike. I can look at him and tell you what he's thinking. I can
    predict his actions before he finalizes his plans. On the other hand,
    he knows whether I'm troubled or not the moment I enter a room.

    We share the same goals. We love the same things. And we are still
    best friends. We've travelled through many valleys and enjoyed many
    mountaintops. And yet, at the same time, Jack and I must work every
    minute of every day to make this thing called "marriage" work!
    e!
    What I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each
    other's faults - and choosing to celebrate each other's differences - is
    theone of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and
    lasting marriage relationship.

    And that's my prayer for you today. That you will learn to take the
    good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your married life and lay them at
    the feet of GOD. Because in the end, He's the only One who will be
    able to give you a marriage where burnt toast isn't a deal-breaker!

    Have a great day! May God bless your marriage.



    So have a great married life !! Feel how much married life could help us
    grow as human being !!! Avoid misunderstanding which causes major
    pitfallsand the same time, communication between each other should be always openalways!!! After all we are all human beings !!!



    Until next time, make it a blessed day,

    Make this day good
     
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  2. meenakrishnan

    meenakrishnan Bronze IL'ite

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    Dear Viji,
    This sure will be an eye opener for many....
    God Bless You!
    Love
    Meena
     
  3. Oviya

    Oviya Silver IL'ite

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    :wowViji, Bow, :hatsoff,:clap, :exactly:, :2thumbsup:,:thankyou2: and what not.....

    Love,
    Oviya.
     
  4. shravanthika

    shravanthika Senior IL'ite

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    very much impressed and brought down tears...see how we can help our children to follow some tips...

    I'm short of adjectives to praise you...so I can only:bowdown
     
  5. iyerviji

    iyerviji IL Hall of Fame

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    DearMeena, Oviya and Shravanthika

    The message i sent is a forwarded message not my experience. I only shared with u all thats all. Though i try not tomake such mistakes my husband also does not say anything. He is an expert in cooking and when i was married i did not know much of cooking becos in our house my mother and grandmother were there to take care of cooking. My husband only taught me cooking and now after retirement i make variety of dishes and give him. Everyday after cooking I ask him how it is.
     
  6. Sriniketan

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    Nice message, viji.
    Understanding the partner is the success to the marriage.


    sriniketan
     
  7. sunkan

    sunkan Gold IL'ite

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    hai viji,
    never underestimate a forward it is a forward because it is popular and someone somewhere wrote this so that all could benefit without his name involved, they are even more better than articles that have a tag as written by so and so.. sunkan
     
  8. Lalitha Shivaguru

    Lalitha Shivaguru Platinum IL'ite

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    Dear Viji,

    A very good message. I have copied this as I can forward to my contacts.

    Thanx a ton !!!!!!!!!
     
  9. roopadadia

    roopadadia Silver IL'ite

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    Hi Viji,

    This brought back some incident that happened a few days ago.

    That day i had been too busy with my customers and my maid too was on leave and i just couldn't find time to finish my cooking. I was half way thru...all the basic things were ready, i just had to assemble everything and put it for baking ...but alas the power also had to leave me stranded.

    That day being a thursday...my DH has to go back to office for his weekly mgmt meetings. So dinner has to be on table by 8.30 so they can be in office by 9.15 for the call. They coz one of his colleage just under him on the orgn hierarchy also comes home for dinner as he lives very far.

    At 8.15, i told my SIL to call up my husband and let him know that we'll have to go out for dinner today as i will not be able to make it in time...and he gladly agreed, never once complaining as to why i couldn't manage to do things on time.

    Also at time if i am feeling low or not in a mood to cook after a long day...they are ready to have even just curd-rice with pickles (we being gujjus) and no one complains.

    I think a good understanding and giving enough space to each other works wonders in a married life.

    roopa.
     
  10. Vysan

    Vysan Gold IL'ite

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    Dear Viji,

    That is a great story.... lot to learn from that....

    It reminds me of the days when me and my wife and kids are together....

    Great...

    Veda
     

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