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The same mother in law in future will not have the same thoughts when it pertains to her grand daughter(your LO).

 

I always had this thought that a women is the only person who put down another women, husbands are exceptional here.

I had an experience in office some months back. There is a boy in my office who is kinda immature. Speaks immature. But he is a good person. His immaturity never hurts anybody. He has this habit of speaking with girls, irrespective of their age, while inbetween work. Which can never disturb others work, but he knows when to fool around. He is too smart in his work.

Like a usual day he started to fool around with me and my friend. I don't reply back much most of the days. It's my friend who shut his mouth by saying something but this guy is harmless.

Another girl who sits opposite of us, who is a dominating freak, scold me infront of all other employees asking ''what will I send as status that day evening. If I will send that I was fooling around with this guy". This girl is not a saint. Even she fools around with other boys in office. She is also not in higher designation. I dunno why she spoke to me that way. It was the guy who goes around and disturb everyone in office. If she was really bothered about that she could have asked that to the guy, instead she hurt me infront of others. I was like "how can a woman do this to another woman". When we girls don't respect and support each other, how can we expect a boy to respect and treat as equal.

 

@Shalumurthy,

Thank you for sharing your wonderful thoughts. Only a few days back, some one articulated how men fought for the rights of women and now you have come up with a snippet that blames women who put down other women.

Sometimes, I feel how a woman feels drives everything in life. You are a great example of keeping your enthusiasm up as a woman. No one has control over whether a child will be a boy or a girl. Why give importance to any particular gender? That is where putting down another gender begins.

Even we need to break the shackle of a woman married to a family has to first meet the needs of her in-laws before attempting to meet the needs of her parents. If a wife is adopting a new family, so is the man of the house. He needs to be man enough to consider the parents of his wife as his own parents and be proud about it. He needs to stand up whenever and wherever a woman is put down in any form.

The limitations are in the mind be it a man or woman. They need to be free to be themselves.

Viswa

 

Sir, well said. But, unfortunately, this is such a grey area & subject to varying interpretation between the husband and wife on whether the wife was put down or not and whether he had to come in her defense & speak up. So very often after the incident occurs when the wife thinks she was put down by one or both her in laws, there is a big argument behind doors where the husband claims that it was wife’s fault & therefore, he did not come to her defense and wife claims it was his mistake for not coming to her defense. Both bring up past instances in their defense & the situation reaches an impasse! Unfortunately, there are no mediators or simple rules to decide whether the husband is right in arguing that it was wife's fault or the wife is right in her claim of being put down by his parents. After this, there is some silent treatment, going back to good terms, Dil being put down again, argument between Dh & Dw, impasse, repeat.. It's a cycle!

 

Very well said @Shalumurthy i agree with what you said. It is always another woman who puts woman down.There might be some men doing that too. I was told by my mil once that women should shut up and it is her duty to do each and every task behind the maindoor, outside the maindoor tasks needs to be done by men. Then i retorted how do you expect your DiL’s to work outside the doors and bring salaries to home is it wrong according to you? She gulped could not answer back. It is not vent for mil, but they keep humiliating that we are a girl? Is it our fault to be born as girl. Unfortunately modern women work same as men and some times in better position as men, but still they are humiliated for their gender dont know why people measure abilities based on gender rather than talent

 

I support ur thoughts. Hats off to u. Everywhere hypocrites. Sometimes I too wonder many men are more good and understanding . Sometimes sadly a woman is the one who underestimated other woman and supports men chauvinism .

 

Very true. Always its a wife's fault and however adjusting a wife is she is taunted for something or the other. No good name. Now a days I don't expect any understanding my position from any one. I don't need any certificate of exellence from
my husband or anyone.

 

This was really too much. But for our sanity lets forget it. Believe me I too heard something similar from my mother in law .