The Other Women In My Life! Several years ago I accompanied my client to see a clairvoyant. That person had rare powers and just by seeing you, he can say a lot about you. I was working with that client on a serious family partition problem and so I was taken along for some consultation. The clairvoyant saw me! Our eyes met. And what a deep, penetrating glance it was! He told me, “Sridhar, do you want to hear something about yourself?” More than me, my client was interested. He said, “Saami, please tell us whatever is there in your mind.” The clairvoyant smiled at me and said, “You will have a lot of women friends. Your joys and sorrows will come mostly from them.” Well, the clairvoyant has a roundabout way of saying things. This was the intrepretation which my client also agreed to. But I found later that these two simple sentences had a lot of meaning hidden between them. I wrote a Tribute To Womanhood a few months back. (That was the attraction which brought my wife into this wonderful site) There I had talked about the women in my life – my mother, my sister, my wife and my daughter. There was a passing reference to other women friends and fans. This thread which opens up on the occasion of the International Womens Day is dedicated to my women friends. To cover all the “other women” in my life, I need much more than the bandwith of the entire site. I am giving the most touching examples. There was a teenage girl from <st1:State><st1lace>Michigan</st1lace></st1:State>. We met in a chat room and soon became friends. She was about 18 or 19 and I, 41 at that time. I told her my age, my marital and family status and also made it clear that we might not meet each other at all. She wanted somebody to talk about her problems and troubles. At that time she had problems with her health as well as with her boyfriends. There was an Indian boy chasing her. I became her Father Confessor. I told her to be careful with her health, even more careful with her boy-friends and much more assertive with the boy who was stalking her. When she asked me with an open heart, “To what extent I can go in a sexual relationship with a boy friend?” I did not sit on a high pedestal and preached her. I told her that her system of values was different from mine. But I strongly advised her that sex, should not be doled out as a candy to win over boy friends. And neither should it be denied in a long-standing and committed relationship. When her niece, a girl of 17 was suspected pregnant she was devastated. I wrote to her not to be too harsh on herself and let things shape up themselves. Soon it was found out that the girl was not pregnant. My friend was relieved. She finished her schooling, got herself trained in secretarial jobs and has now settled in a <st1:country-region><st1lace>US</st1lace></st1:country-region> city along with her long-time boy friend. Many times I have found counsellors standing on a higher pedestal and talking in a “holier than thou” tone. It upsets the person counselled and only serves to frighten them. When I say that I have counselled a lot of people I never meant that I do not need counselling. I do need it at all times. And when I felt that burning need Mrs A appeared in my life. We met in a chat-room and soon started exchanging mails. Mrs A’s marriage was in trouble. And I had problems in my office. Bigtime. So we started counselling each other. She was in an Indian city and so we could talk by phone. We had a perfect understanding. When she felt the need she would call me. I would just listen and offer solace. When I felt the need I would call her. Our roles would be reversed. The mutual counselling sessions went on for more than a year. And probably God wanted to send His blessings to both of us. Her problems were solved and she went abroad to join her husband. My problems also became manageable. The third lady whom I want to mention here is another close friend of mine. This lady was heading the HR Division of a computer education franchisee. She was vehemently trying to get me speak to her staff and students. I was equally vehement in resisting that move. Once we met through a common friend in a restaurant. And then started a beautiful friendship which continues even to this day.