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The (im)purity of having your period...I just don't get it

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Bubbles25, Sep 18, 2013.

  1. yellowmango

    yellowmango IL Hall of Fame

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    I think this thread should be bumped once a month....:coffee
     
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    After 4 days, it should be left alone. :hide:..... Promise????
     
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    hi!
    frankly speaking the "tradition" to keep the menstruating woman aside was purely to give her the rest she needs. however with passage of time many other unpleasant "rituals" came to be incorporated with the rest aspect. the impurity part is definitely not acceptable.
    since you are new in your marital relationship it will take some time for you to make your husband understand your perspective. traditionally you are not allowed to cook during menses. does your hubby allow you to cook? if not ask him to do the dishes and rest of the chores at home. if he allows you to cook be happy, he has partially accepted that certain traditions are irrational.
    one extra shower on the fourth day should not be objectionable to you. as far as the puja goes, it is for him to follow what he feels appropriate. don't try to change him so rapidly.
     
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    only if it takes a headbath!laugh1smiley
     
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    with Anitap pouring the final mug of water. gigglingsmiley
     
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    After her headbath. :biglaugh
     
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    satchitananda Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    That is just what I asked my domestic help Shanvy when they had a mini-wedding kind of ceremony for her daughter a year ago. True, people who exploit women know no age, but this seems like an open invitation.
     
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    OMG, you just cracked me up in the middle of the night. It is rather hard trying to laugh without making a noise, you know!
     
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    i am actually going through it right now, i'm just about to go for my customary headbath!!

    i am just trying to say that there are some things we can't help. i took so much care this time, not to touch milk or any other thing in the kitchen, even then my mom didn't do her puja.

    there should be a balance, if op's DH doesn't wish to perform religious activities during her periods, then its his belief, i don't think op should enforce her views on him.

    likewise if op has been taught not to discriminate, then she should go ahead with her religious activities, and her DH should not stop her.
     

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