Hi ladies, I recently got married and my husband is a nice person. Our six month old marriage is largely OK and we are adjusting well. But there's just one part of our relationship that really frustrates me beyond words: my period. I am from an Iyer family but I was brought up abroad (i.e. never lived in India). In spite of that, my parents are pretty traditional so if I had my period, I wouldn't be allowed to participate in family functions. My mother would even curse me if I got my period on a religious day/puja day. So needless to say, I hated the constant discrimination against something that I had no control over. While I could superficially understand why I wasn't allowed to have my period at my wedding, I just hated the fact that I had to take a pill to delay my period and suffer the pain that ensues afterward. After our wedding, at my mother-in-law's place, I had to wash my hair everyday just because I got my period. I wasn't allowed into the kitchen and no one was allowed to light the lamp (done everyday in the evening) just because I had my period. When we were leaving to go back abroad, my uncle refused to even touch me - even though he knew he wouldn't see me for years afterwards. Post marriage - I thought that in my own home, I wouldn't have to endure this sort of nonsense. So for the most part, I don't. But my husband (who is religious) won't do his daily pujas if I have my period. And he insists that I wash my hair on the fourth day so that he can go about his religious duties. It frustrates me because he knows how much I hate the discrimination. He tries to be supportive but somehow just refuses to get over it. I hate the sexism. I can't imagine putting my daughter through this. How do I deal with it?