So you "saran adayafied" to the genius of your FIL, rather than the melting charms of your future wife ! You are a very practical man. I doubt if any girl sits down with a stringed instrument and delivers a full keerthanai nowadays. Who has the patience ! Moreover, the venue for the mutual-appraisal meeting has shifted to more public areas. A restaurant or the clubhouse. Or Skype .The Sojji- bajji combo is entirely dispensed with. A cold coffee and brownie will do just as nicely. And the "other formalities" are usually discussed ( haggled over) by parents, uncles-aunts and the Intermediary, if any, totally shutting out the Boy and the Girl. All the poetry from the olden day's Bride Seeing Occassion has withered away into a smart handshake over the sealing of the JV . No song and dance about it !