The clash of surnames?

Hi Anya,
What you say is absolutley right. after marriage we gals leave everything for hem and come but htey wont allow us to ve our surname atleast.... whta goin to be there if it remains the same ,the love and affection anyway will be ther for ever... rite..

 

Absolutely right.
If our elders incorporate this point in their minds, lots of problems are solved in so many families.

Regards,
Latha.

 

Ya, you are right anya...What is the big deal in surnames? If we are not attaching the surnames, it's not that we do not have our due respect for them... It's all the mindset which triggers problems for these things also!! what u say?

 

Absolutely right! People should stop bringing aspects like these into the relationship and unnecessarily raising conflicts between the wife and husband!

 

well said dear...

i am still riyakathir only.... though i have changed as riyaprak.....
my hubby has no issues...
and all know me like that only....
no need to change.. MIL's are like that.... let she keep on telling and be unhappy...
until the hubby is understandable.. no problem in life..

 

You are perfectly right....
Its the girl's own decision to keep her father's initial/famly name or husband's side surname...as you have perfectly pointed out,after marriage noone asks the guy to change his name..its mostly the girls who needs to do the compromise in majority of the places after marriage....

i changed my name(perfectly my choice,neither my DH or my ILs asked me to) and added my DH's name after mine but few problems i faced because of this (in the funny sense :-D)
(1)I had some issues getting my licence as whatever documents i had as proof had name along with my father's but then the place i stay(we are in different state),the rental agreement or whatever proof we have for the current address is in my DH's name(since he moved and arranged stuffs first in the city before me)..so i had to provide my marriage certificate as well :bonk
(2)issues when i need to submit address proof when i wanted a new sim card and i had tough time in making that guy understand that i stay with my DH(dint have my marriage certificate at that time):bonk
Many other similar incidents because of my surname change...hehee
In all places i go,i submit my passport,pancard which would contain my father's name and all would look at me as some other person because i use my husband'sname behind my name...

Getting a proof that i stay in the same house along with my DH was a big issue for me...this made me get my 2wheeler licence,i am riding 2wheeler ever since my 6th std...only for address proof sake i got the licence so early..hehehee ;-)

 

You are exactly right Anya..
This is exactly happening with me now. It is a very big procedure to change my last name in office and in all the records. So I told my DH that I'm not gonna change the existing ones. However, hereafter if we apply anything, then I'll change.

I hate this if anyone peeps in these kind of issues.
Its not at all their problem. So better they stay out.

 

I still fail to understand how its any of the MIL's business.

 

By the time we got married I had way too many docs issued in my maiden name..Neither I nor my DH had the time / inclination to go change all of them .So I continue to use my maiden name. I don't think my PIL know or care what name I go by at work. For them I am their DIL .Period.