The 3Ps - People, Problems and Principles

Dear Anuradha, With simple words you have brought very useful lesson to all of us..

These lines are very true.. Thanks for presenting such a good article and glad that i read this as my first one today..

 

Thank you for your wonderful thoughts on this subject. There is a belief in this world that knowledge is power. As a matter of fact, it is character that is powerful. How good is knowledge if that does not build character? How is it useful if it is not for the benefit of the world? Even in knowledge there are two kinds, one is known as worldly knowledge and the other is known as knowing the truth which is considered as real knowledge. worldly knowledge only helps us to scratch the surface of this world to make a living. But it is the true knowledge that helps us towards salvation. One is extravert and another is introvert. The one that digs deep into our nature and quality is the one that builds character.

Even if you take a big corporation, people say that "The Purpose of an Enterprise is to create a customer." In real terms, the corporations that are successful are the ones that creates value and the customers come to them because of the value they create. That is why the organizations are talking about the culture of the people working for the corporation especially in services industry and the quality of the product in case of other industries. The success of the corporations are directly proportional to their culture, people, product, technology and so on.

All three Ps you have indicated above makes the person's character. If we lose everything we have, we can get it back but if we lose the character, we will lose everything. That is why when we raise children we have to make them very independent thinkers. We need to ask them a lot of questions to make them derive answers themselves instead of telling them what to do. We have to understand that knowledge resides in our children inside their conscience and we have to help them discover it rather than giving them knowledge to build character. Once they learn to derive the right decisions, they would lead their life perfectly and that is the greatest service a parent could provide to a child.

Viswa

 

You have been extremely kind with your words. But to be honest, I am not sure I deserve that much credit. I am a simple human being making a lot of mistakes in day to day life. Many things I tell now are not something that I used when I raised my child as I did not have that knowledge at that time. I thought that it is important to share as it could be useful to other parents. I will definitely upload my picture soon.

The following could be one of the examples of a conversation with a child:

Let us assume that the child got lesser grade in one of the subjects in the test.

Mom: I know you always make a very good attempt to do well in the test. What do you think happened this time?

Child: I think I did not have the time to prepare well for the test and also made some silly mistakes when writing the test.

Mom: Let us take the preparation part first. Is that test announced recently?

Child: No mom. It was announced earlier.

Mom: How much time you spent to prepare for this test?

Child: I spent the last 3 days.

Mom: How much time you really had to prepare for this test?

Child: Two weeks.

Mom: Is there a reason why you did not have the time to prepare for it earlier?

Child: Not really. I thought 3 days would be adequate for the preparation

Mom: Now, what do you think you should do to prepare for similar exam next time?

Child: I guess, I need to start early.

Mom: You also indicated that you made some silly mistakes. What happened? Was the test time shorter than the time needed to finish it?

Child: Not really mom. I had finished the test much earlier. But, I didn't look at the answers again before leaving the test answers with my teachers.

Mom: What do you think you need to do to avoid such problems in future?

Child: I guess, I need to look at the answers before handing over the answer sheet.

Mom: I know you are very smart and now I strongly believe that you know how to get better grade next time. Good luck, honey.

Let us assume the child got very good grade in a test and proudly announce it to mom

Mom: Congratulations on a very good performance honey.

Child: Thank you, mom.

Mom: How did the whole class do in this test?

Child: The average grade is slightly lower than what I got in the test.

Mom: What do you think made you to score better than the class average?

Child: I started early to prepare for the test, discussed my doubts with the teacher and also looked at all my answers before I handed the test answer sheet back.

Mom: It looks like you have a complete control over what you do. I am happy and proud of you.

Both discussions are making the child to derive the answers themselves and when they derive the answers themselves, they have good reason to own it and follow it rather than what was told to them.

Viswa

 

It is very important in our lives to have Principles and values.


Viswamitra Sir has given a wonderful FB.

In this Fast track era......i feel the above line is very important for remaining humble and grounded.