Thanks to ‘selective memory loss'

Last Thursday when my husband was sharing me some jokes on his mobile phone, I happened to see a message from his friend regarding some money transaction which I was unaware. When I asked him about it , he told me that he had taken some amount from his friend as we had some financial problems three month back due to purchase of a property and some other unexpected expenses that came our way. I got upset because of the fact that he didn’t tell me about it and we had withdrawn all the money from all our accounts for the purchase for the property. All those we planned together and still he didn’t tell me about the money dealings with his friend.

In addition to that, I was supposed to pay my dad 50,000 which I received in my account for my mom’s medical reimbursement. Paying 50,000 to my dad was already delayed with my dad’s permission which was the result of an unexpected house shifting which came on our way. Though my father told me that there is no hurry on paying him money, I still had decided to pay him the amount by month end and had communicated the same to him. My husband in parallel planned to repay 50,000 to his friend. All these happenings made me upset and I felt all the confusion could have been avoided if my husband had discussed with me before taking money from his friend. The very simple response on this from my husband was “I forgot”. I checked all my account balance and none of it had any balance as I had withdrawn all money for the property purchase.
I pestered him saying “you are not giving me importance that is why you are forgetting to tell important things to me”. I didn’t talk to him much that evening and next day he left early to office as he had morning shift. That day by noon sometime I felt relaxed. Thanks to my friends in IL who made me relax to my post on poor memory of men (Sorry men for generalizing it due to my state of mind).

On thinking further on the issue, I realized that it was all the result of a communication gap between myself and my husband for which both of us were responsible– Parallel plans around Rs.50,000 without both of us knowing about it

I called my husband and asked him whether he had lunch and he understood that I was ok by then and started our conversation. But I made it clear that I don’t expect him to forget important things and pointed many such instances which happened in the near past. I don’t forget to tell him even the silly and simple things. He said “it is because of his work pressure that he forgot about it and he said there are instances when you have also forgotten to tell me certain important things but still I understand that you don’t do it purposefully”. I was very overconfident about myself and I said I’m sure there is not even a single instance that you could point out. My husband thought for a min and said “this month beginning you had transferred Rs.50,000 to your brother and you didn’t ask me or tell me about it. And obviously he was curious to know the reason to transfer him that much money. I tried hard to recollect it but could not remember at all. I said “I don't remember”. My husband laughed and said that is what I also say. My second question to that was why you didn't ask me about money transfer to my brother even after knowing about it. His response to this was also “I forgot”. I said I will check my account anyway.

I logged in to my net banking and checked transaction history of my account and saw that Rs.50,000 was transferred from my account to my brothers account at the beginning of the month. I closed my eyes and tried recollecting why I transferred money to my brother. I then realized that I had transferred 50,000 to my savings account of at the beginning of the month. I verified my transaction history again and couldn't see that transaction and then I understood the blunder that I did. As my name and my brothers name are somewhat similar and with the same initials, by mistake I had transferred Rs.50,000 to my brother’s account.Since there were so many things running in my mind due to house shifting I had totally forgotten to verify my account. I felt very happy as if I have won a lottery. I called up my husband and told him all these things

I was a bit scared to call my brother and tell him the blunder that I did and he would for sure scold me for that. My husband gave me an idea to handle the situation. As per that I called up my brother and told him that I had transferred 50,000 to your account which I was supposed to give my dad. He said he would withdraw it and give it my dad and the the problem was solved. With our next salary we could repay our friend’s money and things were settled.
Thanks to my husband’s poor memory (as per my friends in IL marriage forum “selective memory loss”) which saved Rs.50,000. But still I wish and expect my husband not to have the so called “selective memory loss”.

I’m sure my husband will narrate the whole incident to my parents and brother when we meet them next time at our native. Eagerly waiting for their response and of course the scolding which I deserve for being irresponsible and careless.

 

Thanks Satchi for responding to my post.
Yes it was infact shocking to both of us to know that we didn't realize loss of 50K. That too at a time when we were in need of money. May be because too many things were happening in the last one month but still it was unfair to loose track of it. We both anyway learned a good lesson out of it.
My husband was telling me "I need to trace to who all you have transferred the money so far" :hide:

Anyway we will be careful going forward

 

What you said is very true. Most people including me does that. You have mentioned the solution as well.

 

Thanks Viswa Sir for your comments. That was indeed a good advice to every married couple including me.

 

Good to know that I could make you laugh.