Hi all ILs, Before marriage, our surname is our parents surname. After marriage our surname changes to our husband surname. In olden days, women were dependent on their parents before marriage and husband after marriage. In my case, I got married on my 29th age. I was very happy that my surname was my dad's name & familyname. There is a meaning. I know how much my dad struggled to give me good education, good habbit, good health etc. Even for my marriage all the arrangements, marraige expense everything on my dad's head. But what my hushad family did for me? Before marriage my dad was working for me. After marriage, I am working for my husband's family. I mean, as a slave, a maid, a cook, a lundry, childcare, etc etc. I am not even getting time to take care of myself. I always have that in my mind. I think about this surname matter manytimes. Now, after giving birth to a beautiful baby, my baby's surname is his dad's name and his familyname.(I wished my name should be there if his name is there in the child's surname) What rights I have? When my MIL says "baby is patel's family, so, will be brave" I feel as if I am just get used to give birth to him with his family name. Sometimes i think, we could have had only one name, the first name(+some number to be unique, Like SSN no. in USA.). Hi ladies, Am I the only lady thinks like this or, any of u also thinking like this? Pl. share yr views ILs.