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Sunkan,you are a priceless gem in my jewel box of friends!

Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by mithila kannan, Mar 28, 2010.

  1. mithila kannan

    mithila kannan Gold IL'ite

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    I got a phone call from sunkan,yes,the sundari kannan,whom we love,just an hour back.
    I was very happy to get that call from her.

    When I was in the ICU, sunkan who lives in Bangalore,came to Manipal hospital with her sister to see me.The hospital authorities ofcourse don’t allow anyone in ICU.My DH had taken a service apartment just opposite the hospital and the entire family was there.My husband spoke with her on the phone I believe, and sundari who had brought prasadams from temples and who had come all the way from Malleswaram by auto,went back.

    Sometime after I came home ,which was three weeks later,my DH told me about sunkan coming to the hospital and how he could not meet her in person.I got very angry with him .I said,”How can you do this to a friend who had the kindness to come and see me even though she had not met me in person?”My husband,gentleman, that he is, said,”Yes,mythili,it was wrong on my part.I was very tired and was very apprehensive about your recovery and so I did not go and meet her in the hospital”.

    Let me make a confession.Sundari Kannan was the person who introduced me to IL.I remember her sending me a note,”Mythili,come to IL.You will meet many friends there.I joined IL and now I can’t live without IL.

    Kamalji is a wonderful friend.He came to my house, had lunch and spent a couple of hours with us.My DH and Kamalji became very good friends the moment they said ,”Hello”to each other.But I did not mention both of them in my recent post ,an entry for the latest contest announced by IL.Why did I not mention them?I simply forgot.Why did I forget these great friends?Am I taking friends for granted?

    My mind goes back to my college days.I had joined M.A.Economics,in Stella Maris college and it was the first day .I entered my class room with great trepidation,I was very nervous.There were totally twenty students in my class.TharaMohan Rao, a classmate came to our seats with a notebook and pen in her hand. She was taking down our names.When she came to my place and asked me my name,I said,”Iam,Mythili”After many months,Thara who had become a very good friend of mine, would tell me,”Mythili,on our first day in our class,I asked you for your name and you said with a stern expression,”Iam Mythili”.I thought,here is a headstrong girl.But you are such a simple person,Mythili.”

    Sometimes the way one carries oneself and the way one greets people make an impression on others which is very difficult to change,if it be negative.

    If making friends is an art, retaining those friends in your life and nourishing that friendship is a God given gift.Retaining friends in your life is not an easy job.You have to be a genuine person,should have the urge to take care of a friend and lend a shoulder to lean on, when that friend needs it.You have to put up with some inconveniences and some adjustments in your daily routine sometimes,if you want your friendship to flourish..You should keep in touch with them regularly.

    When I was in college,I had many, many friends.friends with whom I could share confidences.I got married and my world changed .Slowly, the friends who added spice to my life exited from my life.I will not put the blame on my DH’s transferable job which took me to many places quite often.I take the blame on myself.If I had the urge to keep my friends in my life,I would have kept in touch with them.May be I failed in this sphere.But we ie I and my DH have family friends.The few friends that I have ,have become his friends and his friends have become mine.We meet with our families and enjoy support from each other.I have not mentioned my innumerable friends in IL,they are not frinds.They are my property.

    I admire my daughters who have very good friends and both of them have nourished their friendships.On my elder daughterVaidehi’s birthday her drawing room gets filled with bouques.The phone rings up continuously,friends and relatives keep ringing up.Friends drop in to wish her.What is the secret behind her popularity among friends?.No magic,my dear.Vaidehi makes genuine efforts to be a good friend.She remembers the birthdays of all her friends and makes it a point to wish them on their birthdays and on their wedding anniversaries .She goes all out to help them when they need help.I know that her friends will remain in her life through out.

    My younger daughter Sangheetha also belongs to this category.There is nothing that she will not do to help her friends and her friends are always there for her.Sangheetha is the mother of quadruplets and she is always busy.But her friends are always welcome in her house and she gives them royal treatment.Well I feel very happy for my daughters.

    While on friendship,I want to tell you about different types of friends whom I have had the good fortune to know and observe from a distance.

    There are friends who are possessive about each other.This possessive nature corrode their friendship.Kanya and Kala were very good friends.Kala had a number of friends apart from Kanya.Kanya could not stand Kala spending time with other friends,going out with them.She picked up fights with Kala on every such occasion.What happened?Kala slowly weaned herself out of this possessive friendship and Kanya was the loser.

    There are friends who gossip a lot and also carry tales from one person to another relentlessly.Vanitha and Kamala were good friends.This friendship would have flourished ,but Vanitha could not keep confidences.Kamala had to share a piece of information,something confidential with Vanitha,the next day the news would be all over the town.Kamala put an end to this friendship,painful it was to her but she had to do it if she wanted her mental peace.

    Meenu is a charming person,jovial and hospitable.Sometime back she had a number of friends,friends who would do anything to please her.But today,she does not have a single good friend.Her friends have left her.Why?What caused this tragedy?Well,Meenu ,charming though she is,used to pile on to her friends relentlessl.She would leave her two children one aged five and the other aged three with her friend Leela asking her to take care of them when she went shopping ,why even when she attended weddings.If one of her friends went shopping and told Meenu about this,Meenu would give her a long list of things to buy for her home and would thrust money in her hands,making it impossible for her to say,”No”.Soon her friends got tired of her and her never ending demands on their time,energy and they shirked her off,one after the other.Today when I see Meenu sitting by herself in her balcony in the evenings,watching others go for a walk ,or to the temple together with a sad expression on her face,my heart goes out to her.But ,you can’t deny the fact that she brought it upon herself.

    A single good,trustworthy friend makes all the difference to one’s life.Friendship does not take into account Caste,creed.language and financial status.Has God planted a sapling in the form of a friend in your life?You are the luckiest among lucky people.But you have to nourish this sapling .Give it water called trust,sunshine called love,fertilizer called care.You will find the sapling growing into a big tree,giving you shelter in your old age.












     
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  2. paanzaa

    paanzaa Gold IL'ite

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    One absolute faith is faith in the future- people kept praying for you, Madam, if you had seen the quantum of posts- I have this faith- Believe in the miracle-in the most adverse situations I have help popping up...

    Hope is the essence of life, and with elders like you in this site, blessings are always From God in bounty...

    If HE can do, He will do. You are,a blessed one.
     
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  3. Paulina

    Paulina Moderator Staff Member Platinum IL'ite

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    My vv dear Mithila,

    So wonderful to read your post on friends.
    Yes, Sundari is an absolute dear ....very considerate and compassionate with always a good word for all her friends .A great motivator with her encouraging FB's and ofcourse her mastery of Photo shop is phenomenal.
    We were in touch after she visited the hospital to see you .In fact she initiated a thread in the other site to pray for your speedy recovery .A number of us there sent our messages for your speedy recovery .She used to constantly update after speaking with your daughter or DH by sending SMS to both at times if she could not directly speak to them.She definitely is a gem of a person and a much treasured friend.
    Enjoyed reading all about maintainig and nurturing friendships.
    love,
    Lalitha
     
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  4. Sriniketan

    Sriniketan IL Hall of Fame

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    Mithila,
    You are right..she is a gem..
    Nice pointers on how to retain the gems in our life.

    sriniketan
     
  5. Yashikushi

    Yashikushi Moderator IL Hall of Fame

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    Mithila Amma.
    You have replicated my thoughts and mentations.
    I too wondered Sunkan for photoshop endowments,but not yet known her fully to my best.
    So let me add up her to my buddy best.
    Friendship isn't a big thing - it's a million little things.Isn't it?.In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. Its IL which igninted my friendship spark.and thankful for those booster bumpers who rekindled my inner spirit.
    Recently got some close kinship with some wonderful ILites.Each time I chat with them feel some fresh get-up-and-go.

    For the third time am quoting this lively wording here in IL,for which am not bored instead birthed again.
    If you want to be happy for a year, plant a garden; if you want to be happy for life, plant a tree......
    so I planted my tree in my green garden(IL) .....watered every day.....it gave me the golden fruits(none other than you all, dears) ......never will i pluck them...but preserve them till my life ends......

    Thanks for kindling my keen friendship threapy.Now sensing even more briskness.
     
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  6. mithila kannan

    mithila kannan Gold IL'ite

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    My dear Paanzaa,
    Wonderful to get this fb from you.Oh,yes I read the prayer thread.I was and am amazed and touched.Every time I open this thrad I get a tinge of pain in my heart,"Do I sederve this much love and affection from friends known and unknown to me?",still I have not gone through all the mails.
    Dear paanzaa,I too believe in miracles,So many incidents have happened in my life to reiterate in my belief that miracles do happen to pull you out of tough situations if you have faith.
    Thanks for your kind words
    love
    mithila
     
  7. mithila kannan

    mithila kannan Gold IL'ite

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    My dear dear Lalitha,
    Thank you.As you have ightly said,Sundari is a gem of a friend.She introducd me to IL. Today I have wonderful friends like you in IL courtesy Sundari's introduction.
    I did not know about the prayer thread staryed by sundari.

    I am grateful to all my friends for the way they showed their love and affection for me.

    Now I feel better.But for the oxygen concentrato to which Iam constantly connected I would be atleast walk around in the house,but I can not lug on the concentrator with me whererever I go.
    love
    mithila
     
  8. mithila kannan

    mithila kannan Gold IL'ite

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    My dear sri,
    Thank you dear.Nice to get a fb from you.
    love
    mithila
     
  9. mithila kannan

    mithila kannan Gold IL'ite

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    My dear saroj,
    I simply loved your fb.Yes,two likeminded people meet and friendship between them happens.Noone can stop it.
    I loved that quote you have mentioned.Thanks dear.
    love
    mithila amma
     
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    narasmanasi New IL'ite

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    Dear Ma'am,

    I read all your posts / blogs and cherish each of them , especially your letters from a mother to her newly married daughter . Having got married less than a year ago , your musings were like a piece of advice that seemed to be God given ! I cant say I have the patience and tact to follow all that you say but I still love reading these .

    I completely agree about friends and really admire both your daughters for this - especially Sangeetha being the mother of quads - wow ! My husband keeps saying that I am quite good at maintaining friends and that's something he wants to learn from me ... but the joys that friendship bring cant be rivalled by anything else

    Thanks so much for this and keep the posts coming !

    Manasi
     

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