Hi Nivitha, I did respond to your other query on this thread - http://www.indusladies.com/forums/me-and-my-spouse/51027-sharing-email-phone-bank-accounts.html . After reading this thread, I feel your issues are much more deep rooted than the simple sharing of details. First of all, looks like you have tried really hard to make it work and are frustrated because you see no improvement in your situation. Secondly, are you still in this for the right reasons? I did read all your responses and feel that you feel you have given him three years and cannot forget the years. But Nivitha, life is more than the three years. Are you willing to forego everything you feel is lacking in your marriage for the rest of your life? Think about it, three years made you this frustrated, where will you be ten years from now if things don't change. Physical intimacy is an important part in a marriage, are you really willing to forego it? Looks like you made an effort to get out of this in a year's time and decided to give it a try after your parents convinced you to go back. Even after staying away from him multiple times, he has not changed. Do you still see a chance of some change sometime. Like Preethi pointed out, how long are you willing to wait in the hope that he will turn around and give you what you want. It's ok to feel a connection with him, since you have been married for three years but is that connection strong enough to warranty staying with him forever? You have given him enough of chances, don't regret or get confused once you have made up your mind. Keep thinking about all these points everytime you want to give this ANOTHER try. I agree with VidKarthik and AD, divorce in India is tough, especially if he is not consenting. Although divorce can be granted on the grounds of the marriage not being consumated it is still better you file for it in the US itself. Here it will take a while for you to get it. Take care of yourself, don't get sick. You deserve much better. EDIT - Nivitha, If I were in your situation, I would have broken and given up long back. You are a brave and patient person, but don't waste any more of your precious time by staying undecided. Go ahead with your decision and don't look back.