Hi!! I have 2 ½-year-old boy and I need some suggestions. A little background on him - He is a small child, even compared to Indian children. He has fallen off of growth curve a long time back and has slightly delayed development. He is catching up but not at his peers level yet. We have gone through a round of physical therapy, occupational therapy, speech therapy, dietary evaluation and hearing evaluation when he was 14-month-old. He was losing weight at that time instead of gaining. We stopped after a couple of months. He was discharged from some of the services by his therapists. Couple of months later his daycare asked us to send him for therapy but we chose to let him grow at his own pace and he has been getting better. But as I mentioned he is still delayed compared to his age children. If I have to describe him in 2 words, he is anxious and strong willed. My current problem is his eating habits. He was never a good eater. He does not like bananas, idlis, rice or any Indian food. His nanny is Mexican and he used to eat Mexican food like fideo etc. He also used to eat fruits like apples, melons etc. I used to steam vegetables like carrots, peas, green beans which he used to eat. I thought he would eat better eventually. In the last 2 months or so he stopped eating fruits, vegetables, Mexican food. Currently he is only eating cheese, French fries and chocolates. As he is a very anxious child and refuses to try new food even if we are eating and telling him its yummy. He is not at all adventurous. As he is a strong-willed child, we cannot make him do things that he is not interested in. I will give you an example to paint the picture better. He always refused milk. We gave him plain milk, milk with sugar, milk with honey, milk with chocolate syrup, milk shake made with fruits and sugar multiple times. He refused to drink every single time. Recently, my husband gave him milk in his sippy cup saying its water. My son had a little and asked for new water. His father poured the milk out and put water in it without washing. He refused to drink and said he wanted new water. Again husband poured it out and gave him water without washing. He tasted and wanted new water. The third time, husband washed the cup and gave him water and he ended up drinking it. In general, he is not very cooperative with other activities like grooming etc. For example - He refuses to brush his teeth. I brush my teeth with him to encourage. I have a brushing song. I changed his toothbrush to the one with lights. I gave a brush in his hand and used another brush to brush his teeth to confuse him on what I was going to do. All these things have a temporary success and currently he refuses to brush and my finger has become his brush. His nanny also tells me that he refuses to brush for her. This behavior extends to almost all activities and I hope people get the picture. I pick my battles with him. He can pick up his mismatched clothes. He does not want to wear PJs to bed and I am okay with it. If he does not want to wear his diaper that’s okay with me. I let him pee in is pants. I try not to be overindulgent either. For eg A couple of days, he got up in the middle of the night wanted the lights to be turned on and started to throw a tantrum to go to the living room etc. He still sleeps with us. I was firm and refused to turn on the lights. The tantrum went for 30 mins or so before he calmed down and went to sleep. I will brush his teeth and give him bath what ever he might do. We still cut his nails when he is napping as he gets anxious. Of course, I have shown him how I cut my nails multiple times but he is still anxious. I am trying my best not to be too harsh or not to be too indulgent. I need suggestions on 1. How to make him interested in new foods? 2. Any suggestions or books or online resources on handling his behavior? I discussed with daycare people and they have recommended for family therapy. I hope it will materialize in a couple of weeks. I am not sure how helpful it would be but I gotta try it before I make up my mind. Another thing is if I let him sleep hungry, he will wake up in the middle of the night and he would be hungry, cranky and throwing a fit. I don’t like it as I am a working woman and need to go to work in the morning. I will try my best to answer if anyone have any questions. I may not answer right away because of time constrains.