Struggling To Be A Good Mom..

Sorry @anika987 for knowing what you are going through. I have been through the same issues. Things will change dont worry.

 

@anika987 It is okay if -
you lose your patience
not cook good food
feel tired
your daughter fumes at you
you fail at some things in life
you cannot handle some situations
you do not keep a clean house
etc etc

Why do you have to live a perfect life? You deserve peace of mind and happiness. Do not take everything to your heart and feel bad about it. Do not let yourself be a punching bag. If people around you get used to having you as a punching bag, they will always look for this. Cut this out at the very beginning. You can gently tell your daughter that she needs to change this.

 

You said daughter but then why you state *they* here? Is it generalisation.
I presume you are feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, and guilty as a mother. You are putting lot of pressure on yourself to be perfect, and your daughter's behavior is triggering feelings of inadequacy.

we in IL are so proud of you for acknowledging your efforts and being honest about how you're feeling. Being a mom is hard, and it's okay to not have all the answers. Your daughter's behavior doesn't define your worth as a parent. It's clear you're pouring your heart and soul into being a good mom, and that's something to be proud of.

It's understandable you're feeling burnt out and exhausted. Maybe it's time to take a step back, prioritize self-care, and ask for help when you need it.

Your daughter's behavior is not a reflection of your parenting. She's growing and learning, and it's normal for kids to test boundaries and push limits. This too shall pass.
I am sure you are doing your best, and that's all anyone can ask for.

Keep being kind to yourself and remember, you're not alone in this journey.

 

If we say that to the daughter, the fear is that they may take some drastic steps. Who knows what is going on in their mind.

 

Indeed. The approach requires enormous caution on the part of every family member including siblings. One wrong word by any one at wrong moment to her would be enough turn her mind chaotic.
Such delicate issues to be handled like a psychiatrist. Listen to her sides patiently without offering any advice or appear judgemental.

 

I also try to be a good mother, but I don't get my husband's support. My son is still young, so I never scold him. But is it right not to scold him even when he makes mistakes?

Please come to inbox if possible

 

I would suggest let it be more of carrots than stick.
Regards.
God Bless