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Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by Sangeeta85, May 7, 2018.

  1. Sangeeta85

    Sangeeta85 Gold IL'ite

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    I really need strength to fight back..hope god will give me ..
     
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    mangaii Finest Post Winner

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    what kind of fights will happen ? Maybe developing thick skin will help . Sometimes as human beings we tend to exaggerate our problems. At worst what can happen ? You will be fine
     
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    Bcz of these kind of fights I have disturbed my sleep my health has gone worst .. I m not exaggerating my problem ..I want strenght to give her back I will be fine ..
     
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    When u are there,don't think about giving back. How long is ur stay with them
     
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    Being diplomatic is tough for me too.
    Not easy at all
     
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    OP, you are stressing about how the talking will go on your trip as you are 'anxious' about it right now. Actually, if you just said 'hi' on the phone, no more, no other talk; you probably will be better off. The anxiety will vanish. I have learnt that it is better to keep it formal; than none at all or the other extreme of too much talking. Either way you run a risk. If you don't talk at all, there's anxiety; if you talk too much there will be misunderstandings and possible heartache. Keep it at hi, bye.
     
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    That is true I had kept it hi and bye talk and little more for few months but mil did wrong stuff n did not regret doing it n I mean she should not apologize but atleast be nicer and good to make me forget so I decided to do this ..
    I was not having issues but till the visit ..
     
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    Ok I will stop.. not yet decided actually but my fear started to think how to act n react ..
     
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    Interact with them like how you treat a stranger in a respectful, formal way. Talk less, smile blankly , node head & be open minded. Everything will be fine. Don't think too much and loose your peace of mind. It is not worth it. So try to take it easy and just face the situation with a neutral mind. Look like you are very stressed now. If possible say hi or how are you etc to them over phone before meeting them.
     
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    Op...your in laws have got inside your head and you are spoiling your peace.

    They don't care and you don't talk.You have a good life.


    If you are not looking to improve relations....then try to stay there as less as possible.

    When you are at their home,be courteous and polite because it is good manners.

    Plan activities for your stay. Go shopping,visiting relatives etc.

    Think about the positives of this vacation rather than the negatives. You will get to see your family too. Concentrate on that.
     
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