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Still anyone follow this customs in your house?

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by anu1122, Sep 8, 2014.

  1. peartree

    peartree Platinum IL'ite

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    Oh, of course not. I am not blaming the Armed Forces en masse! I was talking them as a demographic because they were the group we were talking about in the post I referenced!
     
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    sdiva20 Platinum IL'ite

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    Actually I may be wrong but I did not think the armed forces were part of discussion except that they were used as an example of chivalry and gentlemanly behavior.

    We were discussing "strange"- for want of better word- customs and traditions prevalent in India.

     
  3. peartree

    peartree Platinum IL'ite

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    My bad. I should have probably mentioned "in the example within the post I was referencing".

    And I guess my intention was to also point out that while the Army Men's gentlemanly behavior towards the woman (possibly groomed to be so) is admirable, there's the other side that I have seen.
     
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  4. Grihani

    Grihani Gold IL'ite

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    This is a discriminatory custom, we dont have such restrictions in our families but still FIL and BIL are to be treated like they are elders, all their mistakes have to be excused and tolerated.
     
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  5. drnamshara

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    Oh yes I recall something similar!!
    >My Co-brother is younger than me and my DH also, an immature kiddo. But still for the designation he has i.e. "SnIL of the house", we run an extra mile to make sure all is double smooth for him when he visits! My DH, even if having dinner gets up and gives place to co-brother and eats sitting on stairs!!!

    >My 80+ granny, whenever she is at my parents home...at any given time of the day or night, even in deep sleep, whenever my dad passes by even remotely in the corridor, she keeps jumping out from sleep and sitting up on the bed!! gigglingsmiley
    We all find it really funny and ask her to just relax and rest!!!
     
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    1Sandhya Platinum IL'ite

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    I know what is a co-sis but what is a co-brother?
     
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  7. SGBV

    SGBV IL Hall of Fame

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    Perhaps BIL, her SIL's husband I guess
     
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    chillbreeze Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Yes..SGBV, co-brother is sil's husband (DH's bil).
     
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    han412 Gold IL'ite

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    When I was newly married and was about to sit down in a chair my MIL pointed out to me that DIL should never sit down in front of FIL. To this I replied in a calm tone and gentle manner " So I should sit on the floor?" and sat in a chair in the same instant. Both of us laughed at this.
    I know my MIL might be inwardly seething that day. But that settled the matter once and for all.
    OP if you turn a deaf ear and sit down -what do you think will happen?
    I think its ultimately we who show the world how we should be treated.
     
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    Never heard of such a thing, never seen such a thing. However, in past, females like DILs or mother-in-laws were not allowed to roam around other males like husband's elder brother, FILs, SnILs. Don't see our generation following such rules.
     

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