I have a situation here. My husband and myself have plans to go back to India after few years. We both also strongly feel that independent living is better than staying in a joint family because that way we will have our own personal space,privacy and concentrated approach towards the kids. My inlaws are expecting that we have to come to stay with them rather than staying separately.We have not conveyed our opinion to them considering that we are not going to relocate in the near future. I am slightly concerned as to how the message has to be conveyed because finally one day or the other we have to convey the fact.Will DIL be the bad person there and be held responsible of making such decisions!!! Can somebody please suggest me on this? Has anyone experienced similar case like this?