I understand the frustration. Just a couple of points. 1) When you have a child, he/she is your sole responsibility. You brought them into this world, so it is the responsibility of the father and mother to care for them. It's nice if you have outside help, but that's just a bonus and you have to remind yourself to be grateful for it. 2) I don't like the behaviour of the MIL. I do not understand why she is not interested in your newborn, maybe she's trying to prove a point or communicate something, who knows. Ultimately, it's her loss. She has an opportunity to bond with a baby, her own grandchild, and she's throwing it away. Let her. You're not the boss of her, and she's not the boss of you. As long as she is generally civil, there is no reason to hold a grudge just because she won't help out with the baby. Ignore that completely and enjoy your precious newborn.