Some Males Hiding In Plain Site On Social Media

Here are some observations and questions along the way.

I used to stalk a "missed matrimonial match" (you can see past posts if you wished).

I wondered
1. Why he showed his photo with sunglasses and didn't use his name on Instagram. Yet he followed lot of females, flirted with them online
2. Why he had two separate Skype accounts, both wearing sunglasses, each with different name
3. Why his facebook account showed far away picture of him wearing sunglasses, using his real name
4. His facebook account is fully locked, i.e. cannot see posts, photos, etc

One day I see his facebook profile account photo with a far-away picture of him and a lady, walking together, both wearing sunglasses and I thought .... ok ....

Then I found he was married (Facebook doesn't lock their privacy well, no matter what you may think. You can simply says "photos of ABC", and it will show photos that '"ABC" is tagged in).

There was photo of his wife embracing him at party, but he kept his hands in his pocket, and looked unhappy. He is now in Canada, awaiting Citizenship (married her for Canadian citizenship, no doubt!)

Second Person, a colleague of "missed matrimonial match"

1. Uses full face, full name on Facebook
2. Few posts show him being friendly with scantily clad women who also have FB profile.
3. One photo with him and a British lady (blond hair, blue eyes) smiling
4. Several posts wishing him happy anniversary.
5. His status is Single

Then I found he is married to a lady in India, and her FB profile shows them both together. The lady's FB profile says he is Married.

He is openly cheating on her using FB, but because of culture, finances, etc, she cannot do anything. One time his wife called him out on it, i.e. why is he pretending to be single on FB, and another lady, probably friend, relative said to stop "taunting him"


Third Person, who is "All-Around American" Area Governor of Toastmasters in USA

1. He uses his real name on Facebook, but either uses photo of teddy bear, photo of meme, or photo of himself wearing sunglasses and his new bride (they got married early this year).
2. He posts few photos of he and his new bride. If he is in a photo with he, she will be wearing sunglasses
3. His new bride uses her real name, shows her real face, and showers her facebook profile with their wedding pictures, videos, etc
4. His whatsapp profile doesn't even show his real photo

This Area Governor didn't go for honeymoon right after wedding, he came to do Toastmasters work, continue studying.

This guy is American. Who is forcing him to marry her? Or maybe he married this lady to get promotion in US military (they give benefits).

In the meantime, from his personality, it seems he wants to turn Toastmasters into Fight Club. For goodness sakes, he is not CEO of General Motors!

Fourth Person, "All-Around American" , multimillionaire in USA

1. He is semi-celebrity, at least in financial world
2. Has a twin brother
3. He uses his real name on Instagram, a far-away picture of him wearing sunglasses and keeps his account locked
4. He uses his real name on Facebook, yet in his cover photo he is wearing sunglasses, and only a quarter of his face is showing
5. Once can see most things he posts, usually forwarding news articles about their business ventures, and other business ventures he supports (such as illegal drugs used for medical purposes)
6. So far, his twin brother shows his face, name, social media profiles


Fifth Person, Co-worker (American who immigrated from South American country) who is too nice to me

1. Co-worker is divorced from first wife, had daughter with developmental disabilities
2. He will get married to his fiance next year (she also has a son)
3. He doens't get along with fiance's father
4. He has said he's been with fiance for years and she keeps pestering him to get married, that is why he is getting married to her
5. His whatapp profile has pic of him wearing sunglasses along with his fiance
6. He is super-friendly with me at work. To the extent I have to make myself scarce

Sixth Person, Co-worker (Also Desi) who is too nice to me

1. He uses real name, full photo with him and his wife on profile pic
2. He is being too nice to me so he can get job in my department (big pay increase)
3. I'm not sure if his wife even knows he is being too nice to me. I believe a wife should know of all the ladies at work.
4. Too nice to the extent I have to make myself scarce

Sixth Person, new member "All-Around American" at Toastmasters

1. Handsome guy
2. Uses real name of FB, but obscured photograph with sunglasses
3. His posts are scarce
4. Owns several bars in South America

My ex would use real name, full face, but no photos of me in FB whatsoever. That is why I study people, especially the opposite gender with a fine-tooth comb.

Especially before I start pursuing friendship, matrimony, etc (I don't believe in sex before marriage, co-habitating, these are my beliefs, we are all entitled to our beliefs)

Is it me?

Is it my karma?

Is this how all males behave? Hiding in plain site while "playing the field"

I understand full-hearted prayer to God will wipe out bad karmas.

Now, I am learning to focus and admire God, so he brings the right men in my life.

Can someone give some perspective.

Please ladies and gentlemen!

 

Honestly I've been trying to wean myself off of social media.

I deleted Instagram account.

Pretty soon, I will delete Facebook. As of now, I use my paintings as account photograph and cover, and a fake name (because you hear about Identity Theft, especially in USA).

 

I wasn't policing anyone, but rather I wanted to understand how males are. Especially if they have qualities that attract lot of women, i.e. looks, money, status etc.

I was in an abusive arranged marriage and if I would have understood certain behaviors

1. either I would not have gotten married to this monster
2. I would not have gotten pregnant, only to suffer miscarriage



People can do whatever they wish on social media.

People can do whatever they want wherever they want.

I only want to understand others actions and intentions so I can protect myself from heartache.

 

These are very helpful.

Very helpful

I had to pull away from the Desi coworker who was being too nice to me because I felt something weird. and he said few strange things like, "ok, you are asking to go for coffee", as if he is. trying to blame me for done future event .... creep!

coworkers go for coffee all the time ... better to be groups of three, not two.

Now if I need something at work I involve other coworkers.

and I like the article about sexual chemistry ... his wife's physical affair nearly destroyed her marriage.

This is dangerous stuff.

A married lady from Toastmasters gave speech on how you can be in life with someone from Internet even if you don't know how they look like or where they are from.

And a few months later she was asked to give table topic speech on which relationship she wishes to keep. She said nipot her husband because who knows they might get divorced some day.

How horrible!

Better to be single and content rather than married and talking about falling in love with anonymous people on Internet!

 

You Know something interesting?

In toastmasters I made speech about how I can live without Internet because I rather see people in real life.

And the Area director who is trying to hide he is married (i.e. wearing sunglasses in photos with his wife, not showing weddingpictures) said that I hate Internet .... I never said I hate Internet!

Interesting ....he is using Internet to "play the field", to find side action ..and his wife, his new bride doesn't suspect a thing!