More than a decade of being married to him, I figured this out. Phew! Still a hit or miss sometimes, but here is my list. please feel free to add yours and it will help us all. 1. Good food (if I cant cook, just order something) 2. Cold beer (he starts an argument, ask, 'hey hon, would you like cold beer?) 3. Good XXX 4. Taking interest in the things he likes/ hobbies. 5. Peanuts...buy lots of them 6. Game of Thrones (hey, shall we binge watch GoT after kids go to sleep; always puts a smile on his face). 7. Tell him that he still looks very attractive... Come to think of it, seems so simple. It took me a decade to figure this secret out! damn...the wasted years.