Hi Friends, Do you allow your daughters to sleepover? If so at what age? If you don't how will you convince them especially if its USA. share your thoughts. .. Sweety
Sweety From what i know most parents are not always immediately comfortable with the idea of sleepovers and parents in India being more conservative than their global counterparts even less so. But tell me havent we gone for sleepovers at our friends place....have we not enjoyed it??? It brings back a lot of good memories. though i must tell you my parents were the most apprehensive of the lot.....after all i was not one of the most obedient daughters.:twisted: children will be forming friendships at every stage of his/her life and some friendships they have formed during his childhood years will last the entire life. Bondings within a group are likely to turn out to be very strong when the children spend nights together, which is also perhaps why children who go to boarding schools have friendships that run so deep.JMHO. I think we must take our children's wishes seriously. If the child's entire group of friends spend nights at each other's house then it'll be unfair on your child if he/she is excluded every time. Although the decision is ultimately up to you. I think it helps to know your child's friends & their parents.consider inviting them over for a cup of tea or dinner. Or invite your children's friends over to spend the night at your place first so you can get to know the kids and request the parents to drop off the children themselves and to stay back and have a drink or tea with you. They would like this too, as it gives them an opportunity to get to know you, and vice versa.And also you will know if you share the same values as theirs. The age at which children should be allowed to go on sleepovers....well it can be anywhere after 10yrs children can go for sleepovers. Btw if you are worried about what your child will do when spending the night with a friend, speak with that friend's parents. All parents will understand your apprehensions, and it will most certainly not be out of line to have a word about your concerns. If you do not want your children to go out after dropping them to their friend's place then let the parents know. You could also fix up rules with the parents like no surfing the internet, and so on. (should i be apologetic for that long post ???:hide
Sweety, excellent tips/ thoughts by Dinny. Here is my take; I am all for sleepovers. Only, I need my daughter to be able to comfortably tell what she is feeling to others. Apart from that, I must be comfortable with whom she will be spending the night with, who are all going to be there. Bottom line...7 years and upwards and I should know the parents well.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts friends. My take is NO. Why? Well I am not comfortable with sleep over for entire night. But I am fine for them to spend until 10 pm or 11 pm and We will pick them up. And I am open to play dates. I am open to inviting them for a day (Holiday) and also open to inviting there friends family for dinner/tea. .. sweety
I am with Dinny & Rakhi . My kids started going for sleepovers around 7 yrs old or so. Off course it was with only family that we were very very close to & I felt completely comfortable leaving them over night with my friend. My son is 17 and doesn't do sleepover at all now but my dd is 13 and loves going to sleepovers. I totally agree with Dinny's take on this and couldn't have said it better
I know i sound like i don't trust anybody, but i think until our kids know and understand "bad touch" we should not let them sleep over. whatever that age be. when i was young (abt 8 or 9) i started going for sleepovers at friends house. our generation was unaware of all this abuse, but nowadays feel scared to blindly send kids to anybody's house.