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Sleep Overs

Discussion in 'Schoolgoers & Teens' started by Sashmitaa, Dec 27, 2007.

  1. Sashmitaa

    Sashmitaa Senior IL'ite

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    Hi Moms,

    How far you are comfortable in sending your kids to other places for sleep over? My daughter is invited to a friends house today and I also told her she can. But still I am in a confusion. No problem with the lady of the house. But since she is a girl child I am afraid whatif the father of the other kid misbehaves with her. We cant judge other persons. We have to just beleive them they are good. She is seven years old. She is very excited in going there.

    Suggestions pl

    Lakshmi
     
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  2. Shobanag

    Shobanag Bronze IL'ite

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    Hi Sashmithaa - I can sense your apprehension about this. I have gone through this years ago when my daughter was that age. First, you need to know the family well before you can send your child to some one else's house. How well do you know both the mom and dad and other family members? Have the girls spent time together for play dates? How many other kids are invited? If there are other kids invited, chat with the other moms casually - you dont want to make a big deal about it. Make sure you are comfortable before you let her go. I know it is hard to send them like this - I was ok with it as long as I knew the parents, etc. If you choose to send her, you can always call in to talk to her or the parent before bed time. This will also be a great time for you to talk to your daughter about being safe and knowing who can touch her, etc.
     
  3. Sashmitaa

    Sashmitaa Senior IL'ite

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    Hello Shobana

    Thanks for your suggestion. They had playdates and they used to play nearly for 3 hours once they come back from school. I am o.k with that. What happened was my daughter invited this same friend for a sleepover and her mom was also o. with that. That girl has a younger brother and he is not allowing her sister to come over here. So all of a sudden change of plans. So when her mom calls me and ask whether you can send ur daughter to my place I couldnot tell no. Had she called me first I wouldhave said a big NO and would have said will decide it later when to send. But she has beleived me and she said yes in the first place. As for as I am concerned I know I can take care of the kids well including my husband. But when it comes as a question of sending our children to others house big confusion and uncomfortability stands before that. So this confusion.

    Lakshmi
     
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    chocolate Platinum IL'ite

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    Now will be a good time to tell your daughter about unreasonable behaviour. If she is aware of it she will be more capable to handle the situation if it happens. Also havent you met the girl's father. If you havent met ,i would say better to make an excuse for not going. Its always better to be extra cautious.I think by regularly telling your daughter what is unreasonable behaviour she will be able to be more cautious. Best of luck,
     

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