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Sister-In-Law Pregnant Again!!

Discussion in 'Relationship With In-Laws' started by Archana11, Jul 31, 2015.

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    shilpakumari New IL'ite

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    i dont know how much support you have from your H and parents. If it was me i would have told her that im going to report it to authority if i see abortion again. not only this i would have reported previous incodent as well. i think its wrong and not reporting it to authority we are also helping these ppl in a way
     
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    Hey Lovely Ladies, So many years passed. I hope all are doing well. I wanted to read all your responses and feel better. Let me give you my life update: Doing well, same old in-laws issues but have grown up stronger to fight. This post from 2015 pregnancy - she had a miscarriage. My FIL blamed me and my hubby saying we did this by not taking care of her and fighting with her and it was a boy. I did not believe it and assured my husband that if it was because of us we will get our karma don't worry. She got pregnant again in 2016 and this time it was a boy so my SIL kept her pregnancy but what's the use the little boy lost his father when he was only 2 years due to kidney failure. The karma of killing baby girl did not leave them. My SIL died in an accident in January 2024. Now my husband is stuck with their 3 kids responsibilities and as usual you might know my husband's elder brother is not interested in any matters other than his own family. Wish me good luck for my future and especially for my kids.
     
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    Life comes with full circle.

    Do good , eventually good will come to you too.

    Felts so sorry with these kids. What was there fault in all these?
     
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    That's so unfortunate

    Whose burden of karma is this, which has fallen upon your family?

    My heart aches for the children—likely young twin girls and a boy—who have lost their parents tragically, through no fault of their own. They are innocent victims of the consequences of others' actions.

    It seems your brother-in-law and his family had foreseen the potential repercussions and chose to distance themselves from such relationships. Perhaps you and your husband erred by not addressing the issues directly and firmly when support was sought after a tragic abortion and the mistreatment of young girls in the past.

    You should have taken the opportunity to caution the parents and educate them about the grave consequences of their actions, including conducting a gender scan, aborting female foetus and neglecting young twin girls. Not just that, but also neglecting the health of your SIL, though she did it for herself.

    These acts carry not only moral implications but also legal, physical, and emotional repercussions. Uneducated individuals, especially in communities where such practices are normalized, often fail to grasp the seriousness of these actions. This is why India has banned gender-reveal practices.
    As educated family members, it becomes your responsibility to intervene—either by offering guidance or, if necessary, by seeking help from qualified authorities to address such behaviour. Supporting them after an abortion, without addressing the root cause, only perpetuates the cycle.

    It's true that abortions occur for various reasons: some terminate pregnancies due to gender, others out of personal convenience, and still others for medical or unavoidable circumstances. Regardless, these actions have long-term consequences.

    Now, the responsibility of raising these three innocent children has fallen to you. Perhaps this is the karmic outcome of your choice to support your sister-in-law after her abortion. Whatever the reason, your focus now should be on ensuring the children grow up in a safe and loving environment, despite the challenges.

    Remember, you will ultimately reap what you sow. Make your actions right, and provide these children with a happy and secure future.
     
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    What a tragic story!!! All that ......for what?? to die off like this and leave kids alone? Your fil has no brain or heart!

    That's very kind of you and your husband to take care of the 3 kids of your SIL. May you have plenty of blessings from above to take care of all the lovely children you have in your hands.
     

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