SIL's hurtful words.

I feel like an idiot for telling her anything. It was like giving her an invitation to talk about our relationship. I wish I could take my words back, or go back in time and never even answer her phone call. I wish I wish I wish.

 

Thanks. Sometimes I feel that few people would have married him, whereas lot of people would have married me. But I never looked at it that way because I loved him so much. When problems like this happen though, I do start to wonder what more his family could want in a dil. Not to brag but he is not going to find somebody better than me. Not with his age, his salary, and his past. I wish they realized that.

 

Do you mean while pregnant or after having the baby? Because my doctor said AFTER having the baby my vulvar area would stretch out. I suppose that's because the baby being birthed would stretch things out. But obviously I can't have a child just for the sake of curing my pain, so I'm hoping the injections do the trick. I know what that feels like to be 'on the alert' for pain. For me it's right when he first enters and it feels like burning, stretching and strong pressure (like trying to fit a bowling ball up there). Even before it happens I dread what I know is coming. It's terrible because my mind heart and body is like 'yes yes yes' and my poor vulvar region is like 'OMG NOOOOO!'.

How long did your pain last? Have you had it for life? Mine appeared in 2008 and has progressively gotten worse. When we first started getting intimate, it used to be that sex was a little difficult, couldn't do certain positions, some days it would be easy, some days hard. But now it's like every single time we have sex I end up with tiny cuts that burn and a lot of pain during and after. Now even wearing pants annoys me. My doctor said that without treating it, it would get to the point where sex would be impossible. I looked up sitz bath.... so it is just sitting in a little warm water, right? Or is there more to it? I want to make sure I do it right. But first I'll have to get dh to clean the tub, it's gross in there.

You are so lucky your pain has ended. I'm really glad for you. I hope mine gets over soon too. I would be the happiest person in the world! I was so excited when I read your first comment that I've been checking for your reply all day. It's so comforting to find someone who has gone through the same thing and is now feeling normal again. I'm nervous about the shots tomorrow, but at the same time I'm terribly excited and happy thinking that this week, maybe even 48 hours from now, the pain MIGHT be over!!

p.s. Forgot to ask, did the estrogen cream help? That's what I'm taking now, 'estrace' is an estrogen cream. Also, did the doctor recomend getting off the birth control pills? I do take birth control pills.

Sorry if I'm asking to many questions.

 

They accept my insurance but how could I do treatments in Colorado if I live in Virginia? At this point I'm willing to try anything. I used to be embarassed to even talk to my doctor about this problem, but now it's been going on so long NOTHING would make feel silly. I would gladly try phsiycal therapy.

p.s. The doctor I'm seeing now is a specialist in sexual dysfunction and vulvar disorders. So I have a lot of confidence in her. But if the shots don't work, do you think I should ask her about physical therapy or where to go in this area? I did a google search and couldn't find any vaginal therapy places.