Dear friends, Things with my pils are good. They call me up, give me support, treat me like a daughter now, and are really happy to have me as dil. I feel really lucky to have their approval. My sil is another issue entirely. Me and my dh were having some problems and all that because of his job and he was acting really hard to deal with. Anyways, my sil calls me often to see how I'm doing so I told her how the job problems with my dh are becoming a lot for me to handle and how when he gets angry he says really hurtful things to me. Background: me and dh had a love marriage in 2007 after meeting in 2005. He was previously married (arranged marriage) mid 2003, seperated in mid 2004, divorced in early 2005. Anyways, my sil decides last night was the perfect night to tell me that I was a 'rebound girl' for my dh, that I was a 'mistake', and all that crap. I know it shouldn't hurt me, but it did. After my dh's divorce, they IMMEDIATELY tried to put him in another arranged marriage. So how come it wasn't too soon for him to pursue a relationship with those girls THEY suggested, but in regards to me, she thinks he pursued me too soon? She herself is divorced and married again, yet when my dh does it, it's a rebound? My dh knew his ex wife a few weeks before marrying her and my sil approved of that, whereas he knew me for a year and a half before getting married, but she is saying 'we didnt wait long enough'. Now after being married almost 5 years to my dh, she is asking me why couldn't I just have stayed engaged to him and asking why did I have to get married? She is also saying he just used me for sex and wasn't really in love. Why does she have so many double standards? Also, she is telling me that my mil thought I was a mistake too. When she knows I'm feeling good about my mil, why does she have to say such hurtful things like that? She also kept bringing up how much money she spent on my dh's ex wife and all that for the 'grandest wedding ever'. When my mil called me today I was feeling so sad inside thinking that in her heart she doesn't want me. :-( My dh says his sister is full of sh*t and hung up the phone when she started all that nonsense. But now my sil and her husband are coming to visit in August for a week and I don't know how I can face them after what all she said to me. She says real sweet words sometimes and ACTS like my friend, but out of nowhere she will just hit me with the insults. How should I deal with her in future conversations or when I see her in person? My dh says she's a moron and that I should ignore her, and that if she says anything rude he's going to say something back to her. But how do I live with that inner embarassment that everytime she looks at me, she is thinking I'm a mistake.... a rebound girl..... and that my dh never really loved me... and worst of all, that his ex wife should be here today instead of me. I feel so self conscious. :hide: p.s. She is 39, I'm 23, so there is a big age gap too. I don't know how to handle her.