Hi, I am here after a long time. After mom passed away, things are not great with me and husband. So many issues and arguments. We went to India for remarriage of my disabled sister. even though he helped to find aliance(his friend) , he showed me hell in my 1 month stay there. With the pressure I gone through, I thought I would die and wont return back to home. Things were slowly back to normal with occasional heated arguments. Actually, I went and talked to him within a day so these arguments didnt go up to the level of silent treatment. This incident happened last week. I just returned from my physio appointment. I took bath and came. He told he was very hungry. I came to kitchen to make dinner. Everything was normal. He came to kitchen to heat some food for school lunch nextday, in the air fryer. Previous day I made something and forgot to clean. He started complaining it was dirty. I was making idly and told him in calm voice, how many times you forgot to clean and I cleaned afterwards? Can you clean this time ? He raised his voice and said, I never cleaned airfryer blah..blah.. and said 'Podi'. I told him please dont talk like that, if you say podi, I'll also say the same thing. This also , I said casually. He asked, if you are a good woman and brave enough, say it. I was simply washing the vessels . he asked me 2,3 times and I said 'Poda'. Even then, I didnt think it was a big mistake. By this time , he was cleaning air fryer with a tissue paper. He placed that dirty paper towel on my face, and said 'Podi Gundathi' and I said 'Poda Gundapa'. He simply threw the airfryer basket on the floor. went to dining table and threw some biscuit packets and some other stuff on the floor and left. Dont know whether he aimed at me and missed or not. I kept quiet. From then silent treatment started. I said after 2/3 days, how could you place dirty paper on my face? I would not tolerate. next time if you do that, I'll throw whatever garbage i find . Looks like saying 'Poda' is big disrespect to him it seems. He wont talk to me. If I say that word ever again, he would break my teeth. Please note, I never said that word in these last 18 years. The age gap between us is just 2 years. And I am calling him by his name. And when I said that word, I didnt think this would this big issue.., but I dont think as big mistake to stop talking to wife. I already knew, he doesn't love me. When I lost my mom, he showed me I could not expect his emotional support. During my sister's marriage, when I arranged everything as a single lady, he acted like I was his enemy. When I was diagnosed with diabetes at 39, he said some mean comment like, you ate so much.. apdi than varum. so nothing new.. but my heart feels heavy. I am telling myself, I should not depend on him for my happiness. but I am tired.. just for my kids.. Thanks for reading.