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Siblings - Narcissistic Attitude

Discussion in 'Parents & Siblings' started by Vedhavalli, Sep 22, 2020.

  1. Minion

    Minion Gold IL'ite

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    Unfortunately there is no cure for this type of personality, you can just learn to handle them or totally get rid of them



     
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    DDream Finest Post Winner

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    You can't completely avoid interacting with her. So, reduce interaction and to the point. Dont share much even on social media. Also learn how to tactically change the topic or respond. We should define our boundary. That we learn from experience. Reduce your use of social media for peace mind and also stop checking their updates. If they ask, you can comment that you don't use it often.

    If you can watch ' the social dilemma ' on Netflix. Its eye opening.
     
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    Sreevidyaa Silver IL'ite

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    Don’t share much. That would mean that you cannot share even with your parents as they move might share. In short try to lead a private life without sharing your personal life with others. Maybe like our parents or grandparents did before when they didn’t have much of technology or an easy way of sharing things.
     
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    High time. Started doing it. Hope I would see better days. Thanks
     
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    Vedhavalli Finest Post Winner

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    I thought not to post this. But I here I go again.
    2-3 bees or wasp stung me. I had to visit ER as the pain for unbeatable with swelling.
    I couldn't talk due to this. My parents were worried called me as I was only texting. I had to tell them.
    Soon my sister called asked why you didnt shoo them. It all happened in 10 sec. I had no idea I was taking a walk.
    She is comparing this incident with her 3rd grade falling down from bike who she went to ER.
    Going to ER, Doctor's appointment and hospitals are tough than normal. I calmy told the same. She goes how her neighbors went no problem in hospitals etc.

    I couldn't take no more, told your going again. If you had called something stick to it. Don't go gaga over anything or anyone. Immediately she called parents bad-mouthed me.
    My parents think I have no patience. I told she is always doing this, they fail to understand. She is only comforting.
    I don't know if it's the meds or my mind sister was little relieved after saw my face swollen.
    Of course she switched to video call just to see.
    My parents think she is good. She is manipulative.

    I'm avoiding her to the core but she is very nosy
     
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    Just don’t take her calls for some time.
     
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    Ignoring calls or texting is the best thing to do in such situations and video calls are a big No if we are not comfortable to talk to someone.
     
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    This is the power of narcissists they enjoy taking control and manipulate people, it will take a long time for you to send a message to your sister that you are fully aware of what she is doing.
     
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    Don’t take any calls for now. I would say no texting too, until you are fully ok.Let your husband take their calls and tell them you will call them yourself until you are perfectly fine. Tell them that the doctor advised for no talking.
     
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    She puts up the best act worth of 10000 oscars
    I tried telling her not to compare or always think about you. She even put herself before her kids on any occasions...
    To my relatives she is good I'm the rebel, bad one. Actually I'm the one who buys gift for each & every one. She buys only chocolate still gets good name. For weddings other occasions my parents push me to gift though I'm physically not there.
    In return relatives gift her. It's all so confusing to recollect from pics.
    When you look at your family pic you should be happy not otherwise.
    On one plot gifted by parents she got the bigger one saying parents didn't do her post wedding function. I didn't want to create problem then now it triggers me how stupid I was not see her real face.
    Her relationship with in-laws is very pathetic, she never lets her husband to talk to his side of family without her presence. Her husband keeps arguing but no use. He told me once it's all about her and world is revolving around her. I told it's your turn enjoy for fun. Now realising he meant it. Poor soul
    As many of you said I'm sharing too much. But it's from me she ask questions if I divert she keep asking same questions.
     

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