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Siblings - Narcissistic Attitude

Discussion in 'Parents & Siblings' started by Vedhavalli, Sep 22, 2020.

  1. Minion

    Minion Gold IL'ite

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    You might want to watch this to understand the behavior
     
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    Vedhavalli Finest Post Winner

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    Can't thank you enough. OMG unbelievable every the Dr said is true I'm experiencing this.
    Better to distance myself than to put in it
     
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    Vedhavalli Finest Post Winner

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    Thanks! The last line is worth by hearting ...
    You gals never ever disappoint me, hear me out.
    :innocent::innocent:
     
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    Positivity02 Silver IL'ite

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    Hi Vedhavalli,

    Your sister seems to be very insecure. As everyone advised keep your communications to the minimum.
    Looking at the bright side, you live far away from each other as you don't have to meet each other often or participate in functions/festivals.
     
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    1Sandhya Platinum IL'ite

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    Yes I also feel your sister is very insecure. Since you can’t change her change the way you respond to her. I pitied her when I read your account actually. Just reread your own post from my this perspective. And you yourself will realize the difference.

    Type up the following in large font, print it out and keep it close while speaking to her:
    “Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery”

    And when you speak to her, reply to every question with a counter question.
     
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    Vedhavalli Finest Post Winner

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    this video clearly states what's happening within my family.
    Thanks again @Minion
     
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    Good that it helped you, I have Narcissistic parents, so did lot of reading to understand and unfortunately there is no cure, the only thing that has worked for me is a total cutoff of the relationship.
     
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    Vedhavalli Finest Post Winner

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    I'm sorry for what you went through.
    It's wonderful you pulled yourself out, esp when it's parents.
    Indian mentality is
    Accuse in-laws - Uber cool
    Accuse BIL SIL cosister - ok
    Accuse blame uncles aunts cousins other relatives- funny jokes about them , enjoy doing it.
    Blame husband, kids - kinda ok
    Blame parents - it's sin
    Blame siblings- giving up on family
    Realising Narcissistic people itself took me 15 yrs.
    I have started to build a big boundary with her. Hope it works.
     
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    It also took me a while to realize what was happening and now its been 10+ years and I have absolutely no contact and I moved to a different country, if i even had a speaking relationship they would have destroyed my marriage and my family, not many would understand a Narcissist until they have experienced someone in their own life and what they are capable of doing.
     
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    Thanks for the thread and the video. I think i am married to one. The description correctly matches my husband and how he treats me. I am suffering from extreme anxiety and possible depression due to this relationship..
     

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