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Should women's sexuality be redefined in India?

Discussion in 'Intimacy' started by IndianFunTube, May 14, 2013.

Choices for Women regarding Virginity?

  1. Get married Early

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  2. Sex in Romantic Relationships is Okay

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  3. Sex is not a Big Deal Anymore

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  4. Virginity must be protected at all Costs

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  1. IndianFunTube

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    Yes, we've discussed this topic to death. But I want a more structured debate regarding women's sexuality and whether we need to redefine it in the way it has been done in the West. No matter how hard we try to brush these sensitive issues under the carpet, the fact is that pre-marital sex is pretty much out in the open.

    Yesterday, a 17 year old girl bled to death while having sex with a 16 year old boy after both of them had booked two rooms in a hotel that was 120kms away from their home. What was slightly surprising to me was that the girl's father was a daily wage earner and both the boy and the girl were from a small town. This is a enough confirmation that sexual activity among teens is not just limited to the urban areas.

    Ranchi girl dies during sex - The Times of India

    Now we all know that men have always played the field and no one ever really questions their virginity. However, when it comes to female sexuality, the men are unwilling to budge. In such a situation, what are the choices for the woman?

    P.S: We're not going to discuss whether one should/should not lose their virginity before marriage. That discussion has been done a number of times. We're simply discussing if it is even possible for men and women to remain virgins until they get married considering people are getting married in their late 20's and sometimes even late 30's. Practical solutions welcome.
     
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    Decentguy New IL'ite

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    If this thread is for discussion, maybe move this to Discussion forum?
     
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    Oh....I just saw that there is a poll too..Sorry about that
     
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    To each his own.... that should be the only definition, IMO.

    - Not labeling woman who has pre-marital sex as forward.
    - Not calling woman who waits till marriage as backward is equally important.
    - Not considering man who accepts non-virgin wife as saint.
    - Not judging man who seeks virgin wife as MCP.
     
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    But you haven't answered the question. Is it even possible for either men or women to remain virgin for 15-20 years since they attain puberty? Considering they attain puberty at 15 and get married at say 30, that's a long long time. Also, please delete #2,#3. Thanks.
     
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    Every parent's fear -
    He knew her for 5 years (long enough).
    Knew to book a hotel room. But not to call an ambulance.
    Left her half naked to be discovered.
     
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    ????????? how does a girl bleed to death just from having sex????? There has to be more to the story than that.
     
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    Read the article... They had 5 yr old relationship which means they were in a relationship from when they were 11 and 12 yrs old kids??? What an irony.. Social activists fight for more laws against child marriages and women's health , and here there are young girls who want to break the rules at the cost of their own lives..

    OP: not sure how to answer your question because , your question seems out of context to me!!
     
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    How does it seem out of context? The question is very simple. Is it possible for both men and women to remain virgins considering that they attain puberty early and marry late. There is a gap of almost 15-20 years between the two.
     
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