Hi friends, My BIL & SIL have been blessed with a baby boy after 6 years of waiting! The other BIL & SIL have brought their first child just a few months before in UK, that too after 5 years of TTC. Both couples were childless for long, and underwent a lot of medical treatments in the past, so my in laws family is in cloud nine to celebrate their happiness. A little background about our relationship here: - I am their first DIL, and ours was an inter-religious marriage; hence so much drama from the beginning. It was my H's fault to listen to his parents even after marriage, that spoiled our initial marital bliss completely. We were even at the verge of separation, as my H failed to treat me or my kid (that time I had only one kid) as his own. They treated us as if we were not existed. They excluded us completely in family matters, and publicly shamed us, and made us feel so small all the time. That's when I've decided to grow in life, for self sustainability, towards success. It worked, as I gradually settled in my career & life without the help of my H or his family. (of course my parents were there as my backbone) In the next few years, my H reunited with us, and our marriage life started to be stable again. Later, he reunited his parents with us, and this time they pretended to be all nice outside, as they planned to arrange marriage for their other sons during that time. I didn't fall for them, but reciprocated to their love and good gestures. Both BILs got married to their relatives only. They started having their own family issues (mainly caused by MIL), but I stayed away from that for long. But after a few years, those co-sisters reached out to me, and showed their willingness to have family time together, so I reluctantly agreed. That's when I heard all the gossips and negative stories about me, as MIL has projected me as an evil woman. I knew this, because MIL has spoken the same among neighbors and relatives in the past when we had problems. But this time, I heard more, as it seems she had projected that my H is still under her control, but acts otherwise with me to maintain his marriage. They shared lots and lots of bad stuff as if my H had shared them with MIL against me. This meeting with co-sisters have brought back all the negativity and issues in our marriage; thus we fought back continually. So, my H got agitated, and went on to ask MIL whether these claims from co-sisters were true? Because they affect our marital happiness these days. This escalated a verbal confrontation among MIL/Co-sis and us, and during then one of the co-sister revealed how far MIL went on to separate us in the past, and how much grudge that she keeps against me (She told this infront of MIL, my H and BILs). That's when we decided to completely cut ties with in laws families in 2018. During this time, a priest came to our home and told that MIL has witched us and showed evidence of some evil idols from our ground to fuel the fire. This was attested by another Hindu pandit from my H's side. At the time of conflict, we too wholeheartedly believed their words, and got scared of her evil attempts as we already had lots of problems in life (financial, health wise, marital issues, work issues etc). The least we wanted back then was to allow someone to witch us. So, we were convinced that our decision to stay away from them was right; thus we didn't take any attempts to patch up. During this time, PILs have bad mouthed us all over, but we brushed them all off.... Fast forward to today:- Now that we are trouble free and are able to think clearly, so we know how foolish it was to fall for these witch doctors. We regret it. And we accept the fact that these religious leaders used our fragile mental status to gain fame and money. But the fact remains unchanged, as MIL went on to seek evil advice, and tried evil things on us (we have material evidence like CCTV footage) believing it can cause harm against us. Since witchcraft is only a superstition and it couldn't do a thing, none of her efforts paid off. We are safe!!! Currently my H is under the impression that we could let go of MIL's other mistakes, as she was very orthodox and by nature she was like that. And now, he feels so lonely without the connection of his FOO (specially when I am very connected with my FOO). So, he looks forward to a chance to mingle with them. Since last issue, PILs (including BILs) have completely cut ties with H. They clearly stated that he is welcomed if he comes clean without us. None of his attempts to maintain a cordial relationship with them were reciprocated until recently when MIL fell sick and there was no one to take her to the hospital. So my H volunteered to help amidst covid lock down, and she accepted his help. Now that, BIL has invited us for the party.. I am sure that my H won't go if I don't go. But then, I am not so sure what would he do if I ask him to go alone? Because he badly wanted to go! If I let him go, they will make it as an opportunity to corner him and spit all the venom against me to his mind as before. This can further damage our life, and I can't handle it anymore. If I reject this invitation, and suggest that we both don't go... then obviously he will feel bad, and lonely. I also would feel bad, and for sure it can create some bitterness in our marriage. If I accept the invitation and go as a family, then most likely I will be insulted by MIL and folks there. Like in the past, they could do this subtly, that my H don't even notice or recognize the act. I will regret it for life, as I feel I deserve to be respected. Now that, in my age and status, I no longer can accept such ill treatment. This can further damage our relationship. What do you suggest????