Should we be cautious in our dressing sense after marriage ??

dear shilpa,
though u have many good & practical advices i could not resist adding mine.
shilpa,as a newmarried girl everone will notice what u wear & how u present yourself.nobody is going to notice ur sil .

so,its good ur dh has prudence enough to comment beforhand i.e before anybody else starts commenting negatively .Believe me ,same comments uttered by mil would have hurt u much more then those by ur dh.

my dear life is long enough to fulfill any desires u have but this is the time to create impression so heed to what dh has to say & follow it .
After one year or so u can slowly start wearing what u like .

pragati

 

Dear Shilpapriya,

My personal view about dressing up is that in my own home I follow my own rules. In my in-laws home, I follow their rules. My SIL [husband's sister], who is married wears salwars all the time. BUT My MIL had instructed both my BIL [my husband's elder brother] and my husband that their wives [me and my co-sis] should not wear salwars, only sarees always and especially when they [my in-laws] come to visit us. My BIL and co-sis [BIL's Wife] followed this rule obediently for 2 years. But when I got married, from day one I REFUSED TO FOLLOW this rule. i.e. whenever my in-laws came to visit us, I was always dressed in salwars and not sarees. I did not ask their permission. I did not also gave a single excuse for wearing salwars. I did not even ask permission from my husband. If my husband is mature and intelligent, so am I. What extra education/degree he received or superior food he ate that his decision would be always better than me ?
If my in-laws confronted me over the dressing up issue, I was ready with an answer- I.e. I would have said " Just like that. I feel more comfortable wearing this dress".
I simply did that [dressed up in salwars] from day one. After some days, my co-sis also started to do what I did-i.e. wear salwars instead of sarees [imagine after 2 years!].
In this way an old tradition was broken.

Please ladies ! Why should our life dramatically change after marriage? Were our parents foolish that they allowed usto wear whatever we wanted ?


Thanks,

HAPPY