Hello ladies, I bumped into Indusladies looking for recipes. But found that this is a great place where you all give wonderful opinions. Some info to explain my problem: I have been married for three years. Beginning period of my marriage was little bumpy but we could handle it as we are in US and there could not be much interference in our marriage from in-laws. Had we stayed in India we would have lots of problems. The only thing that still hurts me sometimes when I think about it is my husbands attitude in presence of SIL(his sister). He has a younger married sister of whom he is very fond. In the first year of marriage he used to compare me to her with regards cooking, home management etc. He used to get extremely nostalgic about how he would get good fresh food whenever he used to visit her. I used to get very hurt since at least in the beginning of marriage a girl wants to feel that her hubby admires her. But I never fought for this reason. There were many other minor things he used to compare me with her for. Gradually I learned to take it in my stride and look over it. I must also tell here that SIL is cold towards me from day 1. She came to my parents house when we went there two days after marriage and was very cold and indifferent to my family and even made faces at my parents. She used to pass a lot of hurting comments at me and DH would just stand there and listen. Now what is troubling me is that, we are trying to have a baby. SIL is also pregnant and my husband takes a lot of interest in her pregnancy and calls her up regularly. Sometimes I feel suppose both she and I have a baby whom will DH consider his own baby? I sometimes feel that he will start comparing my child too with SIL's child. At times I feel I should give our marriage more time and not have baby. But I'm 28 and clock is ticking for me. Should I have a straight talk with my hubby about my concern? I never told him how much his obsession for his sister hurt me, but now I feel I should ask him whether he would be able to love my child as his own. And not obsess over SIL. Also we would be returning to India in a year, I want to see how he treats me when we are in India especially in presence of SIL. For this reason also I feel I should stop TTC for a year. What is your opinion? Should I tell him my reasons for having doubts about TTC? Please suggest. He is otherwise a good person and open to conversation. But SIL is his weakness and I fear whether he would be ready to hear anything about related to her.