Should I Stay In This Marriage

ats · Apr 14, 2016

Hi all - I have been married for 11 years and have 6 year old daughter
I do not have any physical relation with my husband for past 6 years and before also it was just to have kid under family pressure
No medical reasons , just husband does not have interest

ats · Apr 14, 2016

i was not able to write entire message so want to add more
He is not outgoing person and does not have any single friend. He does not like to invite friends over or go to there house. He cannot take kids to park because he will meet people who know him. He will find a time when no one is around and then will go. Will never go to dinner if other people are involved. I have to go alone.

ats · Apr 14, 2016

he do not have good terms with my family as well

may be initially had patience to bear all this but not it is driving me crazy
When I talk to my husband he does not listen and will say no big deal
What should I do , is it too late to take any decision now that I have kid also to take care

kcb · Apr 14, 2016

Looks like your husband need specialist help.....take him to a doctor / consultant

ats · Apr 14, 2016

He is not ready for that. Seems like he think I am stuck as I am outside India and hard to get help from there

vani098 · Apr 14, 2016

Please consult to a doctor. I think he has some psychological problem..

ats · Apr 14, 2016

Thanks. Like I said he is not willing to take any help as he thinks there is no problem. Seem I have either to stay like this or walk out

Priyanisha · Apr 14, 2016

Same Problem I am also facing too, still adjusting and going ahead

ats · Apr 14, 2016

Really , I thought I am the only one with this kind of person.
But now it is getting really hard to move on especially when people wants to make friends with you , invite you and you cannot
From past one year we are now sleeping in different rooms and he does not mind that at all
I am in 24/7 thinking mode now and not happy thinking inside why should I stay in this relationship
But since have made so many mistakes I past including staying with him initially not so sure about my decision

curiousgals78 · Apr 14, 2016

Hi Ats,
kinda of sailing int he same boat.
physical relationship is great . he loves to have it everyday if possible but with kids i feel it so crazy moreover for me i need to feel the emotional intimacy to be able to enjoy physical intimacy. he doesnt understand that.
rest are the same. no emotoional. we dont even talk much these days. during the day even if i call him he will say hes busy and put the phone down.
evening its all about kids. we never talk about our future plans, financial. he doesnt like my side of the family at all and has severed all my ties with everyone. i recently got into watsupapp and trying to connect with everyone back aftetr 10 yrs. its been 6 yrs since i visited my parents. they havent met my kids yet.only pics and videos.
i work go home finish the work, spend with kids get ready for next day.
week end also cooking and cleaning.
if i complain that im getting tired of all this he will put a telugu movie.
that is it basically. i have tried everything to get him to socalize but he only likes to socialize with his parents and sister. whatever they tell him he will follow like Gods orders.