This happened at the playground today. We live in the United States/Bay-Area/Fremont. My DD is 4 yo. We went to the park and were playing on the slides and swings. There were 2 moms each with two boys. The boys would've been no older than 6yo at the very maximum. They were making the boys stand in a line-up and score football kicks towards a small detachable goal-post. We have the small goal-post at home so my DD ran towards those moms. I ran behind to catch-up and explain why she must've run. No reaction. So I told my DD " sweetie why don't you stand on the side and watch once what all these annas (brothers) are all doing ? " So she did for one full cycle of the 4 boys finishing their turns. Then again she ran to the moms asking for a turn. Seeing her standing there, one of the 4 boys said "mom the girl wants a turn, lets ask her to join ". One of the moms turned around and coolly told me without batting an eyelid " We are having a hard time managing the boys as it is. We can't allow your daughter to join this line. Thats it. " I was shocked by their behavior. Forget the fact that it was my kid. Here is a kid who wants to just kick the ball once, just once. Common, how hard is that going to be ? Coming from an environment where kids of neighbors would sit and eat with us, I find this behavior very puzzling. What am I missing here ? On a humorous side-note, what is the secret language parents (or perhaps moms) use to plan play-dates for kids ? Are there language/community/regional groups, perhaps in Facebook ? or someplace else that are used for social gatherings. Asking to genuinely understand the tips and tricks for this "raising an only child in the US" phenomenon.