Ladies, I dont know where to show my sorrow and hope I will get someking of soothing and consolation from you guys. As you all know, I got married to a close relative and without any reason my inlaws are totally against taking care of my baby and from day 1, my parents are supporting me to do job unconditionally. Now they are at my native place for a one month trip and will be back to my city in second week of April. Atleast my husband should be able to acknowledge the sacrifice my family is doing under his heart. But its not the case. To take care of baby either me or my MIL shoudl leave the job, but as my parents are taking care of we both are peacefully working and earning. They should understand nad accept beneath their hearts. But its not the case again. I dont give even a penny to my parents atleast to take care of my son's needs aswell, because they dont accept daughter's money. As my father is retired and his medical needs are few thousands every month. My husband doesn't show any interest in helping them either financially or personally. I think they deserve the best, but I am restricted to do anything for them. My brother is well caring towards my son and he is doing it just for the sake of being my son. My husband on the other hand is a best friend of my brother. What I observed is, My brother's friendship is true but not my husband's. I am not against to both of them but I personally observed it in certain instances. I give you an instance happened yesterday.I was in a moderate mood due to work pressure, no help at home with couple of cousins(his side)waiting for us at home. I need to go from office and cook food for them with couple of varieties. I can't get energey to do all the chores everyday with no help. But nobody helps me,so I am used to do on my own. Ok, my brother is moving near to my home as both of their offices (brother and SIL)will be near by. So, they are shifting their luggage tomorrow. I am unable to help him because I am leaving for native to take care of my kid. I expected my husband would help him while shifting luggage, but to my surprise my DH clearly told me yesterday that - he can't help. I was shattered, and asked him who asked you to help???They wont require any physical help, but may require some supervision and some help as we are staying near by. Now, I am in a situation whom to speak this - can't speak to my brother or my parents which may become an issue and they will take it to heart. Is it not showing his selfish behavior, I know its bad to speak or think about him but I have no choice. We shifted twice in our 4 years married life - everytime my brother used to help us with much physical stress. Dont whats his feeling behind it - is it ego or selfshness or dissatisfaction or just he dont want to help or he is getting influnced by my inlaws?? Tell me ladies, now I am in a big mess - I can't really ask for my brother's help from now on but whenever we need help, he is the first person to help us without any notification. How can I handle this situation??should I tell my brother not to ask any help from us or should I request my DH to help them which he is against? How to move on with my next step with my DH?