wikipedia defines, self pity as Self-pity is a psychological.state of mind of a person in a perceived adverse situation who has not accepted the situation and does not have the confidence or ability to cope with it. It is characterised by the person's belief that he or she is the victim of events and is therefore deserving of condolence. Self pity exists as a real emotion. All real emotions have a positive and a negative side. The positive side of pity lies with its powers of making you numb. It puts you to sleep. It wraps you in a cocoon - and keeps you in a illusion of safety . Self pity to be the single most addictive thing in the world, partly because no one will admit to having it in the first place. The very powers that make self pity so necessary for childhood and adolescence also make it so repulsive for the grownup. As a grownup, however, pity becomes a burden. for a child it is like sucking its thumb and holding a security blanket. For a grownup, well... you're not going to win respect from anybody even self. On the other side, self pity numbs your thoughts and feelings and even your very actions in the world. Often, it is used to manipulate others to get what you want. It becomes a way to punish others. The person swamped with self pity really is leading a pathetic life, filled with problems and struggle. Life really is difficult when you're wallowing in self pity. Bad things really do happen. And one of the characteristics of pity - you always have to blame it on somebody even if it's blaming yourself. Self-pitiers usually look outside of themselves for the source of their problems and struggle. Also, pity separates you. It separates you from yourself, from other people, from your world, and from your power. Pity is an enemy of choice. It's hard to make choices when you're filled with pity. And when you do choose, those choices lack any kind of strength. Very little changes when you're in pity. So the next time, you think why me god, think again..... I know there are lot of people out there who are wallowing in self pity. Today science and doctors say self-pity is also a disease. you cannot just snap out of it as is told by people around you. There are lot of research towards developing pharmaceutical treatment of self pity. So if you are feeling self-pity, help yourself. say doctors,by... Deal with an onset of self-pity by treating yourself to a comfort food like ice cream or potato chips. You need it to help you get through this difficult time. This is particularly true if you pity yourself because you're fat. While battling self-pity, avoid any potential stressors. Stay home from work, don't exercise, and don't do any household chores. You've already done so much, you deserve a break. Inform your family, friends and co-workers of your condition and remind them of it as often as possible. Otherwise, they might forget and accidentally do something that could compound your misery.