Once a woman is married and kids come into picture(or not) - most of us forget that we existed before the phase of marriage. We lose ourselves in the rush of life and the routine grind of keeping up with everybody's schedules and health and relationship maintenance(in-laws, parents, relatives) and running a household. Most of the threads in this forum suggest spending some time on a regular basis - to help maintain the sanity. This thread is to consolidate what we all do for ourselves - so that when we say "do something for yourself" to someone and they ask for ideas, we can point them to this thread. I'll start with what I do: Every evening(night) after dinner from 9:15 or 9:30 to 10:15/10:30 I spend time sipping a warm tea and reading a book. Once in a while, I catch up with a friend for dinner on the way from work. My job lets me work from home once a week - on those days I spend sometime going for a walk during lunch break etc Both of us work far from home with an hour and a bit for commute each way and we both have full time jobs. We love our jobs so no reason to change jobs. He manages to spend time with his friends and have a great time once or twice a month and I never went out anywhere or did anything for myself. I used to feel neglected because I was at home to take care of kids and in a full time job and packing lunches and ordering groceries. I was one frustrated/cranky woman. I felt I cant blame anyone for my frustration because its not DH's responsibility to make plans for me with my friends. It's my frustration and I had to do something about it. So I decided every day I'll spend sometime for myself in doing what I like to do and once in a while, I'll meet my friends for dinner. Surprisingly, its very well received and DH,DD and DS are happy that I a, doing something for myself. Also, I realised I am a much productive woman at work now and I am also much happier with myself that what I was before. As they say - you cant pour from an empty cup - you can pour love if you cant love yourself enough. Now its your turn !