Selection

What is more important for a young woman for selecting an eligible bachelor? For better disclosure, I am 64 years old and I am just trying to find out the thought processes of young women. What is the order of priority? I don't have a daughter and if I have one, how she would think about her marriage is what I am trying to evaluate.

Selection criteria in the order of preference:

1) Academic background
2) Employment
3) Green card or citizenship of the US, if she is planning to settle down in the US.
4) Body-building
5) Physical appearance
6) Someone who is receptive to the pursuit of her career
7) Nice interaction with in-laws
8) Someone who is receptive to the pursuit of an art, music, etc.
9) Someone who has an impeccable character
10) Clean habits
11) Someone who is willing to make a long term commitment to be together
12) Someone who will be a great dad to her children
13) Someone who will really love, care and share.


Note: Please feel free to add anything more to this list or please mention if something needs to be deleted. This question is not restricted only to the Indian young women.

Who need to respond:

1) Young women who is still to be married but has an idea of who she needs to marry
2) Women who have recently married a man she loved
3) Anyone who married someone she loved in the last 10-15 years
4) Women who married in the last few years but broke up with her husband
5) Women who are reluctant to marry due to the fear of unknown

Please be as practical as possible. Any opinion is welcome. No need to say what others would like to hear. Please consider this as collection of data points. There is no maleficence in asking these questions. If anyone is uncomfortable answering in the public domain, please feel free not to respond or send me a private message with your opinion.

Viswa

 

Forget the list above and it may not be in the order of preference. Please share one or two things that made/will make you marry someone.

Viswa

 

My Dear friend GG alias Couch Potato,

All young men who can give a sworn affidavit that they have understood their spouse totally, they are eligible to comment here.

Are you serious GG? Will I have a say on the matter? I am telling everyone who is inquiring whether they would be invited for my son's wedding, I am replying that I will invite them, if I come to know about his wedding.

Viswa

 

@peace3,

Thank you for your honest response. Every such response is invaluable.

Viswa

 

Thank you. Let me assure you that I am not looking to suggest anything to any young man. I already know that was not going to work. I need honest opinion from the young women to know more about their thoughts.

There is a young woman I met who told me that her only criteria was whether her hubby would understand her words correctly. It looks like there are more young men who don't understand instructions.

Viswa

 

Hi Joyoflife,

Thank you for your invaluable feedback. Your view definitely counts and I always value your opinion. I am glad you are guiding so many young women in their groom hunt and I am sure with your guidance, they would find their right life partner. The last sentence of yours is very powerful. A man who is worthy of respect but humble enough to treat the spouse respectfully. Very well said.

In the dream world, one can visualize anything but in real world, one has to make compromises to make the marriage work. Not every man has all the qualities one could fantasize. If Cinderella's are not available, the young women can transform the better half into one with right efforts and raise one for the future generation.

Viswa