Seeking Advice: Sister In Law Visiting Often

Communicate directly. Whenever possible, avoid communicating through a third party. Don't ask your spouse to talk to his sister about something she did that hurt your feelings. Talk to your sister-in-law directly.

If something bothers you, address it as soon as possible. Sometimes it's a genuine problem; other times, it might be a misunderstanding

 

Hi
There are few things I am telling you from my experience...
1. You don't say anything to her ask your husband to talk to her.
2. If you are doing something special on her visit like cooking and all stop it.
3. Let her do something like cooking or taking care of your son.
4. While she is taking care of your son spend time with your husband.
5. Try doing vice a versa go to her home before she comes to your once or twice.

 

I can understand but if u tell her directly it will hurt her and it spoil ur relationship..just adjust for few months ..now she may is not busy so she is coming often ..if she has some commitment like daughter class school etc she will also b busy..

Just adjust for year or u guys move to different place telling reason job or something.dont tell anything directly and spoil ur relationship

 

Why not have her babysit your son, while you & Dh go on a date night once? Since she is so thrilled about being the aunt. I have a feeling, she may cut down her visits, if she has to babysit your son for an entire evening Experiment & see.

And it's a win-win situation either way. If she hates it & cuts down visits, then you achieved the desired result. If she loves babysitting your son, then you can give her even more opportunities (maybe every other weekend), while you on dates with Dh & bond more & more!

 

Hahaha nice idea..even v can ask them to help for dinner lunch etc ...keeping them busy when they come to our house is best idea to cut them indirectly.....

 

Good idea . This should scare the Boo-a a bit. I will watch out for a post on Indus Ladies from the OP's SIL talking about how her romantic brother and his wife take advantage of her and make her babysit their kid while they go on date nights .

 

I understand all the problems you are having but it takes a village to raise a kid. This is sooooo good for your baby - who is experiencing immense love, care and attention in excess. But - I do understand your problems and not undermining it one bit. I just feel happy for the baby.

 

Somebody should say directly which results in misunderstanding( sorry practical truth). Because these ppl drag others to inconvenience, making them to say this directly, no option. Till it is expressed directly they will continue. I don't know whether they do it knowingly or unknowingly, nobody can change them. Pain givers.

 

Man chill. It's really good for your son to grow up with cousin. Many over seas Indian children struggle to speak at very young age esp first child because they don't have cousins to play. It's really good for your child to grow up with cousin as you can't teach every thing. they learn from other children a lot. Its intelligent to get best out of situation.