Second Marriage Based On Lies / Fraud - Life Is In Super Mess

hello Ladies , I’m posting here after long time. A brief background about me for ladies who didn’t read my previous posts . I was 22 when I got married (arranged) in India and went to Canada . Guy was cheating on me and had to end marriage forcefully and my alone struggle journey started . I struggled found job ... but continued life all alone in Canada . Got citizenship / bought property in India etc. In short I survived well on mY own.
It’s been 10 years since first marriage ended. In between I took break came to India to look for guys didn’t have good experience / multiple breakups(nothing long term) in last 10 years and went back.
This time I wen to USA straight from India after 1 year of break. Struggled alone there and tried finding job . I was in NY it was my dream place and I wanted to be there at any cost . I landed high paying job in 3 months I got salary of 130K . I went applying for visa and my visa got rejected and I had to come back to Canada sadly and look for new job there .I was in depression of this loss for month .
In between I was talking to this guy in India from matrimony. He claimed he is businessman / builder , he helped me getting my degree from my university in short period of time when I needed it for visa we didn’t even meet in person but still he helped. I don’t like staying in canada’s Cold weather after staying there for 7-8 years. I was not finding any way to goto USA and I was getting depressed in Canada thought I got new job there ( not for 130K) it was just compromised not my dream job.
This guy In mean time was very supportive .. he got interview for my brother ( bro is sitting idle from 4 years) .
To mention this is my 2nd marriage and he was never married and I had told this to him before meeting and he said he doesn’t care. He didn’t even asked what happened but I had told him how first divorce happened.
I decided to meet him and if he can give me good life then I thought I would move to India initially and will come to Canada occasionally for contract consulting and he agreed before we decided to meet. He even told me we could file for US EB5 investor visa which will cost 3.5 crore.
I made this also very clear I will not be staying with his parents and sister as i led independent life from many years and I won’t fit in joint family environment. He agreed and said his mother told him its good to stay separate from day one so problems don’t happen.
I flew to India I landed in night it was my birthday and He celebrated with crackers ..made me stay in descent hotel and treated me with respect..he showed me bunglow with agent and said it’s within his budget and he will buy It , cost was 2 Cr. I liked one bunglow and he said he will proceed with agent to buy . I asked to meet his family ..we went his home where I met his mother father sister ..his Home was normal upper middle class family but not maintained like wall colour coming off from wall and I asked you are builder but why your Home is not maintained ... his explanation was his mother is lazy and she spends her time in doing kitty party she doesn’t cook and he eats outside everyday. I went to meet his grandmother as well who stays with his bua ‘s family . Their home was nice in posh society . They were well educated people and said nice things about guy. Since guy promised me again and again we are going to stay separate in bunglow I didn’t pay lot of attention to his mother / sister. Guy was down to earth and sweet talker. He then came my home and met my parents and we exchanged shagun.
In shagun he gave me gold earings/ silver plate/bowl and saree for 10,000rs nothing cheap. I was happy and came back and said yes for marriage but no date decided . I was planning after 4-6 months. My mother matched Kundali And said either we get married in 2 months or muhurat is after 10 months. We rushed to get married after 2 months .. all preparations were going while I was in Canada .
I was going to make it my dream Wedding ... I was going to show people who humiliated me over divorce in past years that I’m getting married to good single guy with good income. I asked him for Audi/bmw for vidai and I even told him if he can’t arrange then I will ask my family to do it. He said he will do .
He said whole barat will be coming from flight. Then I came india for wedding and he took me for lehnga shopping and he bought me lehnga for 80,000 rupees plus wedding gown of apprx 50,000 rs again not cheap clothes .
Now before wedding I asked him couple of times to send me registry paper of bungalow and he sent it to me on WhatsApp ( it was agreement done on 100 rs paper but with all seals and stamp with his and bunglow owner signature) then he was saying he made gold jewellery for me about 10 lakhs I said show me design then he sent me photos and receipt with jeweller name on it ( bill amount hidden) I told him I want kandora (waist band ) and I really want to wear it in phera so I will buy it when I come to India and he said no I want to buy it for you and he said he bought it too.
Then I wanted to hire detective to run thorough background check though everything was looking so good..then he made permanent tattoo of my name on his hand and my friends said he loves you so much why you need to spend 1 lakh for detective and I gave up on detective idea which turned out to be biggest mistake on my part .
Now I come to India for wedding after 2 months resigned my job in Canada .
There comes wedding day , day before wedding we had sangeet at my place and guy’s Whole family arrived one day before and they were enjoying at their hotel. Guy didn’t reach and told me he will reach by sangeet I kept calling then he sent me message his flight took off then whole night his cell was off me and my family didn’t sleep whole night then next morning at 8 he reached by driving car said he went to buy chuda (bangles) for me so he missed flight , It was lie he never booked flight. I called his travel agent to enquire and he said his whole family and barat came by train only no flight . He told me whole barat will come by flight but they came by train .
It was first lie which I caught , only 5 memebers came by flight . I had fight with him on Wedding morning and I said I don’t want to go ahead coz you lied about flight and train , he sent 5 members flight ticket and said other couldn’t come coz they booked wrong flight and they had to take last moment it was lie agent told they booked train tickets 20 days ago not last moment.
I had to let it go it was wedding day and everybody was waiting for me reach venue.
I reached in evening after waiting whole day .. we did engagement first and then in engagement ceremony guy side gives girl gold jewellery .. this guy’s family didn’t give me anything except one necklace that too from his grandmother his mom didn’t give any jewellery set ( he claimed before marriage he made 10 lakhs gold jewellery) I was watching all this drama so I stopped my parents from giving Tika ( Dahej) cash money to him . We didn’t give him anything except gold ring for engagement and chain. I bought heavy gold guy’s bracelet (1.5 lakhs worth ) as well which I told no again to my father to give and I hid it in my purse. Then after phera in night at time of vidai he didn’t even have car to take bride. He said he forgot and his 2 cars his relatives took tongoto their hotel. It wasn’t Wedding it was circus going on there.
Next day I booked same hotel for him and me we stayed and he said he will goto his hometown now as he has to buy bed and stuff for new bunglow then he will come back after 4 days to take me , I said ok ..he came back after 4 days saying he didn’t get time to buy bed and furniture but he will rent for night and will buy next day so let’s go ..he forced my parents to come with us for Grah Pradesh pooja so all 4 of us went to his hometown new bunglow. We reached to his bunglow we saw his mother sister mausi there , his mother and sister were not talking to me and my mother. My mom said there is no pooja preparation here , his mom said we are calling pandit now. We were there for an hour may be and suddenly one guy shouting entered the bunglow and asked all of them to leave he kept saying I don’t want to give you my bunglow just leave , you have damaged my house, broke window/broke camera. I was inside with my parents , I ran outside to see what was going on , his mother and sister shouted you go inside this is our family matter don’t interfere, I said how come it is your family matter I’m married and we are supposed to live in this bunglow so who is this guy shouting , who’s bunglow is this ... I asked that guy what is truth , he said I gave them on rent not sold but I don’t want to give it to them now. This guy ( husband) stood there silently without uttering single word, he only said I will deal with this later , let’s go from here , I kept fighting all the way to him and he said he paid him 50% money and 50% remaining so fraud happened with me. He took us (me and my parents ) to stay In hotel , my father said we need to see proof you paid him money and that bunglow is yours but this owner is born giving you possession now, he said he paid bunglow owner 75 lakhs and he is bringing DD copy from Home to show us , he came after 4 hours and brought photocopy of DD. My father said he will go back to our hometown and will get it checked in bank. My parents left after 4 days and said find rental apartment and then get this bunglow thing sorted , I stayed with this guy in hotel for 1 week and we kept looking for rental flats , he found one flat and we moved there , flat had no elevator for 7th floor and water comes in morning only , I told him I will not stay here for more than one month, I don’t live like this, in the mean time I got call from hotel owner where him and his family stayed for 3 days ( I declined to pay for 3 days stay for them before marriage, I said I will pay for 1 day only) that hotel owner kept saying I called this guy and his mother for more than 1 month now sent so many texts and they aren’t responding, they left hotel without paying said, we are sending payment in 1 hour and never returned. I’m so tired and frustrated , they are big fraud they sent me cheque without signature, they transferred 10 K only , original bill is 30K , he said sorry I had to find your number from venue I begged them to give me bride number so she can tell her husband to pay my money, I asked what’s this nonsense , guy kept making excuses again that he paid him and hotel owner lying , I said are you paying him finally or should I ask him to lodge complaint against your mother/sister ? He then transferred him money, then I get call from train booking agent that they aren’t paying him for train tickets they booked for wedding, I said so you aren’t even paying train agent, he said I won’t pay him coz he interfered and told me they booked train and not flight for barat. Poor guy kept calling him and his mother and they didn’t pay him after 2 months.
In mean time we got bunglow paper and DD checked and they both were forged , bunglow paper with stamp is also fake , it was made with so proficiency that our lawyer first said it is genuine and he couldn’t figure it was fake. Bank said this is not DD it is some copy paste paper made in MS word. My parents were not telling me they were afraid I will fight with him . It took us 2 months to know reality , so in this 2 months Guy was taking me to see new properties, told me we will new bunglow don’t worry , we saw multiple penthouse and bunglows , I told him let’s rent descent place first then he also took me to multiple rented flats and he kept making excuses location not good/ landlord not good and it’s been 1.5 months he didn’t even take flat on rent and kept me in that shady flat. Now I told him 100 Times in 2 months your bunglow’s reality I still don’t know but what about your 10 lakh jewellery, you gave me one mangalsutra only so I need all gold jewellery you made for me . We both will keep it in our locker and so take it from your mother , I used to fight badly shouted badly and used bad words for his mother/ father for keeping jewellery , I’m NRI why did I come to India to stay in shady flat when before marriage he showed me 2 Cr bunglow and 10 lakhs jewellery , he goes to his mother and come back with new excuse every time , saying sasural side keep jewellery and what did she bring from her side, we will give in pooja etc , he even came with excuse that his mother reached Canadian embassy and got my passport copy where my divorce status is written so she is not giving jewellery, I knew it was pure lie, no embassy gives such information to anyone. Now between all this fights he was still showing me 5-6 Cr bunglows and was assuring he will buy it soon. But this guy didn’t have 100-500 rs in his wallet , he asked me sometime for 500-1000 rs for car petrol, then he got new car delivered and told me his card not working at car showroom so asked me to pay 2000rs but when I saw statement I see 6000rs swipes from debit card , lying just kept continue.
Now I found out I was pregnant 2 weeks I didn’t wanted to continue pregnancy but this guy showed how much he wants it, I never really cared about what he wants , but my mother said it’s my 2nd marriage and I’m 34 so I should keep it , I kept saying No for initial 3 months but my family insisted even if marriage doesn’t continue I should have baby coz I won’t get married 3rd time and baby is only thing I will have with me. I just wanted to go back to Canada ,
Now I’m pregnant and this guy is not even buying vegetables and I kept shouting from my lungs for 2 months , I finally told him just get lost , I don’t want to continue and I’m going back to Canada I’m not even going to my mother place , he kept apologizing and brought his mother to that flat and she told me to come stay with her at their flat , my mom told me to go there, I went there and stayed in their small flat for 8 days , it was suffocating, now in all this fighting I slapped this guy once , he lied about iPhone before marriage that his mother bought 1 lakh rs Phone which I never saw in nobody’s hand after marriage , I asked him when will your lying stop , he as usual defending his lies and never accepting , I said why you told all this lies just accept once and he said he wanted to show his financial status , I gave him one tight slap in night , he left the room and slept outside with his father, now comes rakhi and his mother was expecting I will stay there in rakhi and will entertain his sister and cousins I said I’m not staying I want to goto my Mom place for rakhi so book my ticket , he still didn’t give me even one necklace and again said if my mother not giving then I’m buying new jewelry for you before rakhi , now rakhi comes and I told him you have to finalize bunglow and jewellery else we are done now , he took me one day before rakhi to bunglow to give token and he reached there at 9 PM so owner left saying come next day , next day I came my Home and he never went to buy that bunglow , i left his home for rakhi next day told him by the time I’m back rent another furnished flat I’m not coming back to live with your mom / sister as I stated clearly before marriage . His face turned blue, anyways I left and I’m at my Mom place.
Now guy kept calling and I kept asking him after coming to my mom place if he did rented flat or not and he keep saying today / tomorrow and it’s been 1 month now. My parents furious told him to come and take me with him but I said I’m not going there until he gets me 10 lakh jewellery and bunglow both, and until he gets bunglow possesion I will stay in rented flat not at his Mom flat, he kept making excuses to come to my mom place , this week/next week then he comes one day after so many lies today/tomorrow and brought 2 big necklaces, he said his mom not giving jewellery he made so he bought new , he was not ready to give me he was only showing me , I snatched it from him and asked my father to goto jeweller and check , jeweller said it’s 500rs necklace fake not gold . I lost it completely
Lies and lies from 3 months , I called all my relatives and told him in front of them thisbis fake necklaces as soon as he heard it he started running from my house, my dad and people ran to stop him , I don’t want baby I kept shouting and I need his consent as 2 hospital told me No for abortion without husband consent, so I told my people to catch him and get his signature, this guy was nothing but just fraud. He kept running and one of my mamaji stopped him and took him to his house and managed to calm him down and called me and my parents after 2 hours and he apologized again and said he lied for marriage but now he will come back with real jewelry and not to abort baby and if his mother doesn’t give then he will break relation with her, I told my family it’s lie again don’t trust him , but they asked to give him one more chance.
I knew he was fooling my family and now it has been more than 1 month since he went back and I’m at Mom place , again he is saying I’m coming this week / next week. I said leave your jewelry and bunglow , Baby is both of us responsibility and you should pay for my medical checkup and medicines he again just doing sweet talking I know and I will take care of delivery, but now he is not coming nor he sent even one penny for medical expenses,
I stopped picking his calls he used to call my mom and fool her aunty I’m coming believe me I’m buying that bunglow . I booked flight for tomorrow and I’m flying. I told Mom just stop he is just fooling you .
I had told him as soon as I got pregnant I will deliver child in Canada only not India and he agreed for expenses of 10 lakh
And now this guy is running away from delivery responsibility of his own child and saying his mom looking for girl for 2nd marriage and he wants to come out of this and go ahead with his life so even if child comes he will be with me and he won’t see him in future so he is thinking why to bother about delivery expenses when child will be hurdle in his 2nd marriage
Now I’m stuck here going to be single mom and have to manage delivery all alone in Canada. I have decided to leave from India, I’m calling all support programs in Canada for single mom as I won’t have job and how would I take care of new born . My mom will come for 2 months max she can’t stay.
My head spins I’m badly screwed up for trusting this charmer .
Now I met lawyer and asked him fraud case lawyer said you can file but you have to prove everything in court. I have forged bunglow papers sent by him.
I’m not worried about fraud right now , there is no law in India where husband leaves his pregnant wife hanging and not paying anything for pregnancy and delivery expenses
I will file divorce after 1 year but till then I have to suffer and bear expenses alone or go on welfare then how would I take care of newborn and goto work.

Ladies what should be done in this situation ?
I still don’t know what was his motive behind marriage. He is trying to keep me in shady 2 bedroom flat with his mom/drunkard dad and sister, lied about bunglow multiple times , not taking responsibility of child though convinced me to keep it.
I’m badly stuck but I want to drag myself out of this *** and give my baby good life.
Should I file fraud case or leave it as it is and goto Canada ?
Can I file maintenance case now as he is not supporting pregnancy

What is the best possible way to come out of this **** ?
1) My parents asking me to stay in India and do delivery , I don’t want to
2) I want delivery in Canada but scared to be alone and newborn and expenses though I’m enquiring support programs
3) do you guys see any hope in this marriage ? All I saw from day one is lying nothing else

 

@Rakhii ,
Thanks so much for reply ! I am Canadian citizen and I have OHIP card but I no longer have insurance from employer. I will be in Mississauga area. I am going to rent initially with roommates then I will try finding job if I can get any . I need to find separate rental place if my mother comes for delivery.
My only worry is if I have labour pain suddenly and I’m all alone then what will happen to me , I will call 911 or cab.
I am 15 weeks pregnant now , I will still try and find job . I need job offer/pay stubs to lease apartment as I can’t stay with roommates after baby comes , last
Option would be to rent basement ( I never stayed in basement in life) but life is showing me harsh reality now .
And when baby is here how would I take care of him coz I will be going to work. I can’t afford to sit at home ; all these questions are killing me .
Though my mom said she will help me or she will bring baby to India let see ..
For now I’m being pressurized to stay in India and deliver but I won’t . I will leave ASAP as you also suggested .