No I wrote that I have been nice, did not write that sentence about him, but me. I meant he has knows how much nice I have been to inlaws after each and every incident.But I wrote a long sentence so. I have no issue with him being nice, Infact, I want them to be nice to him .I also feel angry about things- but still I want peace in the house for the sake of his health and happiness- he should not take stress. DH used to think he will change them by loving them and doing everything for them- he craved their love. To get their care, he did everything. That is a son's feelings for his parents. But they do not reciprocate. Even when we were friends, before relationship, he used to tell me his parents are always complaining and he just wants them to care for him- he is willing to do anything for that. That time I found it very hard to believe parents can be like that. I just wish them to care for him or atleast show that they care or stop abusing. That will be enough for him.