Round the clock ,husband is always finding faults n cursing.wants me 2 b a yes-woman!

njoybuddy · Oct 8, 2012

Am married for 3yrs n hav a 1yr. Old boy. Initially we both wer working out of town at same place (away from in-laws). At the time of delivery n shifted wid in-laws sice husb started his own clinic. Am helping him in d same. Initially v both shared v. Gud loving relationship. But since v hav shifted, due 2 interferenc by my in-laws, my husb doesnt discus anything wid me. During my delivery they all treated me badly not taking any care. Eg- for more than 2months. Pus was cuming from my stitches but they wer so ignorant 2 tak me 2 even gynae on time. My in-laws are verbally very sweet but in actions always misbehaving wid me n my parents.so i never hav a verbal fight wid them . They r very diplomatic. Anywhere if my opinion differs from from my husb, he starts yelling, shouting n grumbling. Occasionally uses abusive language. I tried many times 2 solve by discussing, loving or even fighting, but of no use. My husb always tries 2 find faults wid me, cursing me wenever i try 2 discuss. Recently he has stopped talking 2 my parents without any reason. He thinks dat i discuss issues wid my parents n dats why differ from him. He wants me 2b a yes-woman. Am educated, self-dependent woman i dont accept everything blindly. He has also started maintaing distance wid me. In 1 .5
yrs v had sex js for 2 times dat too wen i insisted. Many a times he refuses also.... I hav seen my husb discussing everything wid in-laws n even changing decisions under their influence. Am under lot of mental pressure n torture. Pls help

MaritalBliss · Oct 8, 2012

Re: Round the clock ,husband is always finding faults n cursing.wants me 2 b a yes-wo

Try to avoid talking about your in laws or your Parents. You use this time to increase the bond between u, DH and son. Make him listen to u..tell him how u guys need to plan for the future and talk about your aspirations. U can be as diplomatic as yr in laws..put your points across to him with a smile in a non aggressive way. Be independent, and not clingy. Do not let him condemn u, if he says something hurtful, just say 'ouch' and walk away. Later when u both have calmed down, discuss matters. Try not to badmouth his side...always state facts and tell him how u feel...once the bond between u is string, he will listen to u and there will be less arguments. Pick your battles, do not fight for every single thing. Sometimes, instead of arguing, u just walk away and go for a walk, it can really make a difference. As reg to him not talking to yr parents, do not bother but u also do the same...maintain little contact with his parents.

njoybuddy · Oct 10, 2012

Re: Round the clock ,husband is always finding faults n cursing.wants me 2 b a yes-wo

Thanx Marita. urs is quite a practical advice. i l try 2 implement