Rights Of Wife & Kids In Property

Hi All,

I am posting this incident happened almost a year back (which still haunts me), so would like to seek your inputs in this.

The person is an lady in her mid age is one of my far away relative, part of the information is shared by her & part of information I have received from DH & In Laws. I will address them as Uncle & Aunt.

1. Theirs was an arranged marriage, they have two children (10 years & 8 years) respectively.
2. Uncle is chain smoker & drunkard - was admitted in rehabilitation center couple of times, but all attempts failed miserably.
3. After staying for almost 12 to 13 years, Aunt decided to part ways from Uncle (Not divorced / remarried any one) but shifted to her parents (located in different state) along with her both kids as she felt Uncle's life style was impacting their kids life.
4. Aunt parents & siblings have helped her in educating her both kids & by God's grace they are good in studies & not like their father, where as Uncle till day times are there he is so addicted to drinks even though belong from a well to do family background sometimes found in roads or gutter & don't even get up for days after he drinks (totally spoiled)

Current scenario.

1. The other siblings of Uncle decided to sell off their ancestral property & distribute the funds amongst themselves (more to the sons & less to the daughters mutually agreed & accepted by all).
2. All the families met together on the day of the financial deal even Aunt came on that day along with her both kids.

Injustice (What I feel).

1. Once all the financial deal was completed, the other siblings handed over the Uncle share of cash to Uncle (who is not at all stable because of heavy drinking) & Uncle gave all the money (amounting to almost 80 lacs) to his neighbor & not gave a single penny to his wife or kids.

2. Aunt requested the other siblings who are her SIL & BIL to hand over at least some money to her kids for their future (her husband never shouldered any of their responsibility because of his heavy drinking). None of them helped her or her kids.

Your suggestions required:

1. What Aunt can do in this scenario?
2. Also I am upset about the mindset of my in laws who were actively involved in this decision.
3. Though I don't know her personally, but I really feel they need some help. My In laws have asked me not to communicate with her (They pressurized me to discontinue my friendship with Aunt in social media, to avoid unnecessary problems I didn't opposed & agreed).

 

Dear Yellowmango, joylokhi, jayasala42, Thanks for your inputs, here are some points may be of any help for your inputs.

1. The amount transferred was not in cash (it was 90% or 95% Cheque & 10% in Cash) & yes the amount was in few crores divided among 7 or 8 siblings.
2. It was mutually agreed among all the siblings (Males will get 75 to 80 L each & females will get 10 L to 12 L each) there was no issues in that.
3. Yes a lawyer was involved in that & as a protocol all the siblings including this Aunt was aware about the deal & were asked to be present on the day of the deal.

About Aunt:

She is not that well educated & not financially strong & well versed with legal aspects in this present scenario she & her kids are completely depended on her brother & parents (Mom's side).

Later on things will be fine, time is the hardest teacher.

Neighbor (A middle aged family person):

Used to take care of uncle (after aunt left & his parents expired). Many a times he was the one who took brought him home from the streets (Uncle was found dozed off after drinking). No idea about any hidden dealings.

My Concern:

1. Yes this above incident shook my & my fathers confidence level towards my in laws.

2. So thinking about it requesting your suggestions.

 

Dear yellowmango,

Thanks for your response,

1. I don't stay with my in laws (but have frequent visits by them) & I always get a feeling that they don't like me.
2. This aunt incidence was bugging me for long so shared my concern, Dh is confident I won't be treated like his aunt by his parents. All he said he is not interested in my money so I can continue with separate account.
3. Salary/Bank Locker/Investments from my salary /House where we are staying (All EMI are borne by me & are in my name. Though In laws are not at all happy with this decision (for past 3.5 years managed to keep a deaf ear, don't know how long will be able to keep myself cool).
4. For monthly household expenses equally & EMI is borne by the one who purchases the product.