Right might still be wrong

Hi Angellic,

Exactly my thoughts and I have opened a similar thread called Deepika Padukone's 'My Choice' that is now there in Movies Section.

She is totally misleading the current youth.
And most of her choices are only about people who live in the high society.But the truth is, there are a lot of common public like us whose lifestyle is completely different from theirs. And if you see the video, most of the other women look already privileged. They have just included some rural women so that the video doesn't get tagged in any different way.

But thanks to social networking. We see many HATE voices against the video. Hope they refrain from producing such silly videos in future.

 

Though I don't agree with the choice of having sex before marriage or outside marriage, I think the response to the video is totally what the video is about. A woman doesn't have any choice. Just because a woman say's it is her choice to have sex before marriage or outside marriage, most people are jumping on her as if Sharafat ka theka women ne le rakha hai. Just for saying it, a woman gets crucified.

If a similar video was made by a male actor, then it would be laughed off and forgotten. But since it is made by woman, it is bad - future of India is doomed.

The only choice for women in Indian mindset is that of cooking, cleaning, taking care of the family, wear traditional clothes and talk about religion. She has no choice beyond that. No choice to just think or express anything else.

I am not sure but that may be the perspective of the people who made the video and hence made it sensational. It may have been intended to communicate that a woman should be treated equally as man and not being constantly judged or crucified for everything.

 

NOTE: I am saying some general assumptions that people make based on dress of women. There are exceptions and not every urban or rural women are as such.

Actually, it is the opposite. A rural woman, wearing a saree and bindi is already assumed to be "sanskari" and "adarsh" even though she may have had affair before/after marriage. While an urban woman is constantly judged by the clothes she wears and with whom she has a cup of coffee. Just because she wears sleeveless top, jeans or skirts and high heels, she is termed as "Chalu". Even if a rural woman gets raped, the blame comes on the dresses worn by urban women. A rural woman may not be wearing a bra, but if a strap of bra of an urban woman is visible, all hell break lose.

The disparity between haves and have-nots in India is very high. So, if someone makes a film on women in villages, with no proper clothing, living in poverty, people would jump on that as well, just as people do on the documentaries of India that shows cows on streets, snake charmers, elephants, traditional clothed men/women, etc saying that this is not complete India.

So both the urban and rural women need empowerment.

 

I saw the video and loved it! It is a short video so impossible to include very much into it. But the main message is that women can and should do their own choices. Be it what kind of dress they wear, do they marry a woman or a man or do not marry at all. That men should not take them as given, it is the womans choice to stay with them.

 

Dear Angellic,

You have carefully analyzed and very well articulated the women's empowerment in the process of reviewing "My Choice" Video. It is the reality in India that many women are not even able to meet both ends meet. They lack education, reasonable income to take care of the family and a decent standard of living. Uplifting these women are the top priority of the entire society leave alone women who fight for the empowerment. Freedom comes with responsibilities associated with it and similarly the choice comes with the culture, social fabric and civilization that one belongs. One can make choice within the rich cultural heritage that the entire world admires and long to learn from.

It would make better sense to fight for the empowerment in education, employment, marriage, politics, inheritance and other areas before trying to change the rich cultural heritage. At the same time, even boys need to be raised respecting women with a clear understanding that they have equal rights.

Viswa

 

Dear Angellic,Sorry for coming in late here. I fully endorse your views. Women don't have to fight for choosing the ethically wrong and immoral acts. Instead they should fight for discrimination in gender equality at work place.
our women MPs should fight and pass the " women's reservation bill" in the parliament which is pending for more than 14 years.
PS

 

There was nothing in the video promoting choosing wrong or immoral acts.

If you look at a society where there is no discrimination then why would a law like "womens reservation bill" be needed? Yes, as a temporary solution to promote equality maybe.

Sexuality is one area were women are mostly discriminated. Throughout the history in almost all cultures and religions a lot of focus been put on that women should be virgins. The society condemns harshly women who step out of the boundaries.

One of the pics shown a woman that had educated herself so that her parents and country can be proud of her. One sign again that women are supposed to serve others, not getting educated so that she can have a good life.