As someone who has moved back and gone through the settling process let me give you some perspective on this. I don't think we moved for the sake of our parents. I wanted to be a part of huge family gatherings at the drop of a hat, taking a train just like that to go see my mom one weekend, living in a big community with kids having umpteen ways to be kids and yet socialize. Life is just much simpler in India. Yet, I was reluctant to move, to give up on my already uncomplicated life, to uproot myself, my career aspirations etc to just go live in India. It worked out very well. We loved it. I hope to do it again someday with my son. Living in India gave my daughter a lot. Things that I couldn't have done in the US. With parents, you have already been out of the country for so long. They already have their social structure and support system in place. They already have a help system in place. They won't need you as much as you perceive they need you. Moving back to help parents and in-laws is going to set you up for disappointment. The reality is parents and in-laws have moved on since you moved to the US. In my experience, kids settle in fastest. Men settle in next. We have a LOT of unlearning and relearning to do. It's hardest on the women. Having the maid/cook/nanny/driver etc really helped but having someone calling you morning, afternoon, evening and night to see why you need the cook, why is it you are out, where did you go with your DH leaving the kid with the nanny etc are all very very annoying. Nobody will question your DH and you have to learn to push back from 100 miles away instead of 10,000. It's a learning process, especially since you have lived on your own accord for quite a few years. Regarding schools, DD went to a regular CBSE school for the first two years before we moved her into an international school. Hindi/cursive etc are all handled by the teachers. More than half the class is from America, so the teachers worked with us. It didn't take the kid too long. She became a social butterfly in India. The kids call on the intercom, they all go down, play and have a fun time. Next day at school, they talk about what they played at home and it was an added bonus. A ton of kids from her school stayed in the same apt community. Even now, my DD tells me she misses those kids. Btw, the citizenship, I would wait for it if I were you. What if you have to get back? What will your first child's status be? We had to come back and I'm glad someone coaxed me to get my US Cit before I left. We don't think of all eventualities and I'm glad that friend had the presence of mind to make me get mine.