Just today, I was reading this thread by @blindpup10 and I felt I am playing her DH's role in my life. I don't have the capacity to handle anything unusual from what I am used to. I prefer to stay in my comfort zone. Change causes lot of discomfort. Having to wait for outcomes and thinking about the results stresses me totally. I am more a negative person and it is very rare of me to calm myself by thinking positively. My mother's second nature is to be anxious, stressed out and go into panic mode by exaggerating and even convincing others to believe in her. I am not her type and have stayed away from her after my marriage but it feels I am following her path now. I am in mid thirties and not mature and able to look at things from a larger perspective. My husband has a strong personality too and so it only adds to the fire whenever we have a difficult or new situation to handle. I cool down after going through the aftermath and feel sorry but cant say I will control my behavior. It feels like I am not in control of myself when unexpected things happen. What can I do about this?